Observe the customs of the country in which you live. When you assign the mourningand at the state level in connection with the death of a large number of people endure a moment of silence out of respect for the dead and solidarity with the rest of the population in expressing its condolences to their families. State flags will be flown at half-mast, and entertainment television programs cancelled.
Wear black tones at the death of a relative or friend. Deep mourning implies that all the clothes on you must be black and in the floor ofthe mourninge allowed to wear only one black object, such as a dress or head scarf.
Observe the mourning period immediately after death. The duration of mourningand depends on the degree of closeness of the deceased to you. For example, after the death of a spouse is supposed to observe mourning during the year, and lost his wife must be mourninge six months. Parents mourn a year, less close relatives from three months to six months.
Please refrain from entertainment and visits to festivals, marriage during mourning. Do not hold lavish celebrations, have fun, sing and dance. Do not deny yourself in communication. If you feel that you seriously feel the need to talk about their loss, to cry, do not hesitate to Express their emotions.
Pray for the deceased, warmly and sincerely, if you are a believer. Besides the external attributes of mourningand, it is an important subject of mourning. If the deceased was baptized, request prayers, and on the ninth and fortieth days after his death have to serve a memorial service. Subsequently, don't forget to mention the name of the deceased received by him during the rite of baptism, in prayers for the dead.
Cover mirrors in the house of the deceased before the funeral. It is also customary to stop the clock in the room.
Advice 2 : How to wear black
In modern days, the custom of wearing mourning had ceased to be strict and binding action after the death of a relative. The death of a dear person, believers are accompanied by Christian tradition - prayer for the soul of the deceased and the holding of memorial days. Atheists as sad events result in psychological overcoming feelings of grief and desire as quickly as possible to return to normal life.
In fact mourning is a system of rules and prohibitions that must comply with family members and relatives of the deceased. The duration of wearing mourningand may vary: 3 days, 9 days, 40 days, 6 months, a year, several years or even a lifetime of mourning. This term depends on the degree of proximity of a person to the deceased. The most severe and prolonged mourning is observed in relation to the husband or wife, children and parents.
The mourning color is black. Today, however, the black color has already lost its sad purpose. Stylists have long introduced him into fashion because of the effect visually slim. However, to emphasize in the appearance of any item or article of clothing is dark in color the recent death of a loved one is very important for restoring psychological balance. As a rule, women wear mourningnye hats or scarves and long dresses, men shirts black.
According to popular tradition, to 40 days the soul of the deceased is with family and home. This understanding of death has influenced the character of mourning. Even if the family experienced great grief, they must lead a humble life, to show sadness, praying to limit their contact with other people, to avoid all manifestations of joy and happiness. In Russia it was forbidden to sing, to eat sweet meals, drink wine and go to festivals.
Post in the period of mourningand is observed not only among Christians but also in many other religions. In addition, a memorial meal is allowed, as a rule, only simple traditional food, including a special commemorative dishes: jelly, soup or fish soup, pancakes and pudding.
True believers and grieving soul of Orthodox Christians after the death of a relative, most need to strive not to an external observance of mourningcustoms, governmental, and internal humility, staying in fervent prayer for the deceased person. If the deceased was baptized, should be ordered prayers for the dead - a commemoration of the 40 liturgies necessarily in the 9-th and 40-th day from the date of death to attend Church and to have a memorial service every day to pray for the repose of the soul. If the deceased was not baptized, the only permissible prayer at home. In memory of the deceased should perform good deeds, to give alms to all suppliants.