Advice 1: What to do with things of the dead

Many people who had to survive the loss of a loved one, are concerned about what to do with the personal belongings of the deceased. Someone is trying to solve this problem immediately after the funeral, and someone a long time can not bear to part with any thing belonging to the deceased. But sooner or later there comes a time when you need something to decide and make a choice.
What to do with things of the dead
According to legend, things every man impregnated his energy, therefore, some religions say that from the things the deceased person must get rid of, while others require you to store them as a memory.According to one source, in the Orthodox tradition, to complete the earthly Affairs of the deceased, his stuff is required to distribute to the poor people for 40 days after the death, asking them to remember the deceased and pray for his soul. First, it will help the soul of the deceased to decide his further participation in that light. And secondly, you will help people who really need clothes.For other sources, the possessions of the deceased cannot be touched until the expiration of 40 days after death. Only after this time they can be distributed.The Bible does not clearly define these terms, so neither of them option is not a violation of biblical laws. Throw away belongings of the deceased should not, because they can benefit the needy people in them.If you have no one to give the possessions of the deceased, you can leave them at home or take to Church or charity where they always will.If the person died, after suffering serious illness, his things (clothes, bedding, dishes and more), many are advised to burn. But doing so is problematic, not taking you to the woods for this procedure. Although you could just put them in the trash, from which they will take special service and burn. But if you don't want to do that – don't do, it's your personal decision.As you can see, there is no clear answer to this question. There are only various opinions and recommendations. Therefore, follow what you heart tells. You can leave your things yourself or give them to someone who needs them more than you, or throw it away altogether. After all, stuff is just stuff, and the memory of the dear man is not in them.

Advice 2 : How to bury a man

The death of a loved one sooner or later comes to every family. Therefore, it is necessary to know how to bury people. There are a few rules that must be followed.

  • Clothesin which a man died, it is desirable to burn. Don't need anyone to give. If the relatives of the deceased want to keep it in memory, then in any case should not be worn for forty days.

  • It is better to wash the deceased at the same hour when he died.

  • To bury a person need new clothes or at least clean.

  • Never wear clothes with no remnants of blood or sweat of a dead man.

  • If the deceased during the life asked to be buried in a particular dress, his request to be performed.

  • If the dead man was a soldier, sure to put him in a military uniform.

  • On top of the dead man is usually offered a white blanket. On the forehead you need to put a crown depicting Jesus Christ, the virgin and John the Forerunner. The crown must be written prayer in the old Slavonic language. In the hands of the deceased is given an icon or a cross.

  • If the family of the deceased have the opportunity to invite a priest, it should be implemented. If not, then you need to call the special people involved in the reading of the Psalms and the worship service. Some driven by the deceased to the funeral in temple.

  • On the coffin of the deceased placed four candles, and near the body – a glass of water, a small piece of bread and a saucer of millet.

  • Blood relatives should not wash the floor in the room where there was a coffin.

  • Native should not go in front of the coffin with wreaths and wine.

  • At the cemetery, it is customary to kiss the dead man in the crown that lies on his forehead and hands. From the grave definitely need to pick up flowers and icon.

  • If the dead man was a watch or some other jewelry, remove them in any case impossible.

  • In front of the boarded-up cover, the face of the dead man's robe. The coffin is usually lowered into the grave on the towels, which are then handed out to people.

  • The coffin should be lowered so that the deceased was lying with head to the East. Grave throws a few coins, and then land. Her first throw relatives.


After the funeral need to be sure to remember the dead. To do this, the family of the deceased arranges a memorial meal. Is it usually in the house where the deceased lived. On the table is kutya and pancakes with butter. You must also first and second courses. The Wake is also cooked jelly. Alcohol, according to tradition, on the memorial table is prohibited.

Advice 3 : What to do with things of the dead

Many people who had to survive the loss of a loved one, are concerned about what to do with the personal belongings of the deceased. Someone is trying to solve this problem immediately after the funeral, and someone a long time can not bear to part with any thing belonging to the deceased. But sooner or later there comes a time when you need something to decide and make a choice.
What to do with things of the dead
According to legend, things every man impregnated his energy, therefore, some religions say that from the things the deceased person must get rid of, while others require you to store them as a memory.According to one source, in the Orthodox tradition, to complete the earthly Affairs of the deceased, his stuff is required to distribute to the poor people for 40 days after the death, asking them to remember the deceased and pray for his soul. First, it will help the soul of the deceased to decide his further participation in that light. And secondly, you will help people who really need clothes.For other sources, the possessions of the deceased cannot be touched until the expiration of 40 days after death. Only after this time they can be distributed.The Bible does not clearly define these terms, so neither of them option is not a violation of biblical laws. Throw away belongings of the deceased should not, because they can benefit the needy people in them.If you have no one to give the possessions of the deceased, you can leave them at home or take to Church or charity where they always will.If the person died, after suffering serious illness, his things (clothes, bedding, dishes and more), many are advised to burn. But doing so is problematic, not taking you to the woods for this procedure. Although you could just put them in the trash, from which they will take special service and burn. But if you don't want to do that – don't do, it's your personal decision.As you can see, there is no clear answer to this question. There are only various opinions and recommendations. Therefore, follow what you heart tells. You can leave your things yourself or give them to someone who needs them more than you, or throw it away altogether. After all, stuff is just stuff, and the memory of the dear man is not in them.

Advice 4 : What you need for a funeral

The death of a loved always be surprised even if this man hard and long it was sick. To prepare mentally for this simply impossible. And at the same time, if the trouble still came to the house, close relatives should pull myself together and prepare everything in order to organize the funeralof the deceased s at a decent level. Be sure to observe all rituals to organize the farewell to the deceased, burial, funeral.
What you need for a funeral



Relatives of the deceased person will have to gather my thoughts and determine what you need to do first. The most important is to identify space for future graves. Usually these issues are engaged in ritual services. If a relative died at home, you need to take to the hospital a certificate of death. If outside the house, the body sent to the morgue. In this case, and the certificate is issued in the morgue.

You need to have a police officer who must make the report of the examination of the body. You need to obtain a death certificate. Then have a visit to the ritual of the organization where you ordered everything you need for the funeral. The first is the coffin, which will be produced based on the height and weight of the deceased. Second – wreaths with ribbons, they can be made of fresh or artificial flowers. There are candles, towels and other necessary supplies. As for the monument, it is recommended to first apply for a temporary and only a year or permanent. The fact that shrinkage of the earth at the burial site is just over one year.

If a relative was baptized, it is necessary to order the service in the Church and invite the priest to the funeral ceremony. A priest should talk about how to comply with all Church tradition and not make a mistake. It is much more important than hanging loop mirrors and other such legends.

After this funeral, the relatives of the deceased arrange the funeral. The Wake can come by all who knew the deceased. Usually served soup, fish cakes, buckwheat. Put on the table the pancakes with honey and kutya, is served on the third-compote. Funeral you need to consider in advance; or apply to a dining room or cafeteria, or ask distant relatives and friends to help organise a funeral lunch at home.


Advice 5 : How to dress the deceased

After the death of the person to be able to say goodbye to him, to complete his earthly journey a burial ceremony, must observe all the traditions followed by the people for centuries. One of the highlights is the robe for the deceased, appropriate to his faith, customs and their own dying wishes of the deceased person.
How to dress the deceased
Instruction
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Previously, it was customary to dress the deceased in white. And clothes for the death of a person had to prepare myself in advance: I sewed it only on the hands with a needle forward, without nodules, - the deceased was not allowed to tie. The man's head was covered in a shroud – thin scarf with a pointed top and sinking to the back panel, the woman was meant for the bright shawl. Today in the Orthodox tradition, the deceased decided to wear all new, clean. Things must be great in size, not to be big and baggy or tightly compress. If the welfare of the family is insufficient to buy a new set of clothes, allowed to dress the deceased in clean.
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If people in life have prepared a suit or dress for burial, his desire to be done. But first you should make sure that the clothes are clean, neat and suitable to the deceased in size. To bury the deceased taken in clothing that matches the season and the weather. Prepare the shoes with the heel, soft and presentable.
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Military people are usually clothed in parade uniform. The veterans are often punished the families to the funeral clad in all orders, because personal military awards still none of the relatives is not necessary and many years later, and can and does get lost. Do not break the will of the deceased, has earned these awards.
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The forehead of the deceased Christian cover with a whisk, a symbol of the crown of the Kingdom of Heaven. The Corolla traditionally portrayed the Savior, the mother of God and John the Baptist. The crown should be written in words Trovati songs. The Corolla is sold in the Church shop. The mouth of the deceased should be tightly closed, hands are placed on his chest crosswise, as if in prayer - right over left is a sign of the Crucified Christ. In hands icon of the Saviour, or a crucifix. Immediately before burial, the icon should be removed – it is impossible to bury.
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A clothed body on the belt cover with a white sheet or a funeral shroud, which depicts the Crucifixion – a symbol of the deceased under cover of Christ. Put his head under a flat pad of cotton wool or dry grass (a pillowcase filled with consecrated in the temple on palm Sunday or the day of the Holy Trinity of dried twigs of willows, leaves of the birch trees).
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According to Sharia, to bury the deceased in clothes is forbidden. In the Muslim religion of the deceased, it is customary to envelop in a shroud (Kafan). It needs to be made of calico or white linen. Kafan traditionally consists of three parts: liffy, izora and the Kamis. The first is the fabric that will cover the corpse completely, from head to foot, so that the shroud is easy tied on both sides. By izora (piece of cloth) wrapped the lower part of the body, and the Kamis is a shirt cut for the head. For women provided Hemor - handkerchief for the head and hair of size 2 m by 60 cm For the burial of the dead babies used one Lifafa. Fabric for Muslim shroud should match the material prosperity of the deceased. The body of a man is forbidden to cover with silk.
Note
Today to observe the Christian or Muslim ritual ablutions and the clothing of the deceased if the body was not transferred to the morgue. Or relatives of the deceased will have to exert maximum effort to succeed in a short time to prepare the deceased duly following the formal procedures. According to the Russian legislation, without the transfer of the bodies to the morgue to get the death certificate it is impossible. However, in the morgue for an additional fee, can produce the ritual washing and clothing of the deceased. For this pass in advance to the employee all prepared apparel.
Useful advice
You can't put in the coffin of objects: books, money, jewelry, products, photos. These superstitious customs - the remnants of paganism. To the deceased may be wearing a crucifix and if you want a wedding ring if he was married.

Advice 6 : How to dress the deceased

Difficult to gather my thoughts and pull myself together when you have lost a loved one. But in this situation, you need to make the best way to say goodbye to the deceased. Not every garment is suitable for a dead man, pick up what you need, in accordance with the traditions.
How to dress the deceased
You will need
  • suit;
  • shoes.
Instruction
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Clothes should be taken to the morgue, no later than the day before the funeral, so you need to prepare in advance. Can use the clothes of the deceased, but only on the condition that it is in good condition.
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Sometimes the outfit sewn especially for this occasion, better suited to dense white fabric without pattern. Do not use any jewelry (beautiful buttons, jewelry, jewelry) and embroidery (except for national dress).
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When buying clothes pay attention to her style, it needs to be strict and do not have extra parts. Best suited dress-up outfit.
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The shoes should also be defined. If the deceased was an Orthodox man, pick up white sneakers. Otherwise any new and closed shoes. To determine the suitable size of clothes and shoes, review your existing closet of the deceased or with the aid of a seamstress.
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There are General rules that apply to the clothes of the deceased. Men should be socks, underwear, t-shirt, shirt, suit, shoes, tie (optional, but can prepare it in that case, if the deceased wore it for life), dentures (if necessary), shoes. The morgue also need to get other items: soap, towel, handkerchief, Cologne, disposable razor.
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For the dead woman requires a different set of clothes: underwear, babydoll, stockings or tights, handkerchief for the head, shoes, Bathrobe, a simple dress or business suit with long sleeves and a skirt below the knee. In addition to these things in the morgue need to bring a handkerchief, soap, towel, dentures (if the deceased used them for life) and Cologne.
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For young unmarried boys and unmarried girls, the rules for clothing are not as strict. For the deceased young man a suit for special occasions, preferably light colored, but without a pattern. For the dead girl buy wedding dress but without a veil and jewelry.

Advice 7 : How to behave when the dead man in the house

There are certain rules and norms of behavior in the house with the deceased person. About them everyone should know, they should be observed strictly. All of this will not deliver the friends and family of the deceased in any way, and not to hurt their feelings.
The mourning event, which can not be finished

Knowledge is power




The death is relatively sudden, because in most cases it is not expected. When this happens, many people are often angry and lost, not expecting this turn of events. It is therefore important to know beforehand about some of the principles and norms of behavior, when the house is deceased, so as not to exacerbate the already unenviable position of his friends and relatives.
It is believed that the person tying the knots in the rags at the time, when the house carried the coffin with the deceased, leads to the family of the deceased damage!



How to behave in the house with the deceased


In the house where is deceased, it is not necessary to talk loudly and, especially, to laugh.

Relatives of the deceased should be all the mirrors, since the mirror is another portal where you can get lost the soul of the deceased, being at this time in the house. In principle, this is the more common explanation: you should close the mirror only to it do not disturb anyone. Besides, it's not pleasant, in the mirror when the coffin with the deceased.

Mourning begins immediately after death and is accompanied by robes dark or black tones. You should not wear this clothes in bright colors. Each for himself determines what he needs to be in a state of mourning. Orthodox Christians this time has no clear boundaries.

Being in the house with the deceased, it is necessary to remove all silver jewelry and things. If the deceased was a believer, then his neck should wear a cross.
Should not be placed near the portrait of the deceased a glass of water (or vodka), covered with a piece of bread. According to legend, this Cup will never come to the soul of the deceased, and will come only the demons.


Friends of the deceased should wash his body only in the daytime. The water which was washing, to pour in a specially dug hole in the place where the people don't go.

While the deceased is in the house, no need to do the Laundry. This is considered a bad omen. Also you should not allow someone to sit on the bed of the dead until the coffin is in the house.

If someone is afraid to be in the house together with the deceased, he should be encouraged to overcome your fear, holding for a time by the feet of the deceased.

All the men that came to say goodbye to the deceased, it is necessary before entering the house to remove their hats.

The coffin with the deceased, as well as the lid of a coffin you can't take friends of the deceased. It is believed that in this way you can trigger another grief in the family.

Advice 8 : Is it possible to wear the clothes of a deceased person

Any man, when dying, leaves behind personal belongings and clothes. Then in front of his relatives, the question arises of what to do with these things. Over time, there is an unspoken, superstitious principles, which are often crucial.
Everyone decides for himself what to do with the belongings of the deceased

Is it possible to wear clothes of the deceased?



Many of the people determines the degree of influence of those or other objects and things of their dead relatives. It all depends entirely on the psychological characteristics of man, his personal beliefs and his relationship to his past.

For example, spiritually mundane people can refer to things of the deceased is quite calm, which will allow them to throw them away without any compunction or joy to wear. This is largely characterized by complete optimists.
According to the priest Andrey Lorgus, the garments of the deceased can and should wear. In addition, father Andrew believes that among Orthodox Christians there is a General custom of giving away things of the deceased in the so-called the sight of his soul.


Those who believe in using the things of the deceased in the succession of generations and connection times or epochs do not want to get rid of them, but to put on too, not going to risk it. For such people, these things will be, rather, a form of psychological support than personal items of clothing.

The third group of persons as the possessions of the deceased relative, on the contrary, will be a burden to you, as without end be reminded of it. In the end, it will trigger the desire to get rid of them.

People and prejudice



As they say, many people have many opinions. Everyone sees something different. However, regardless of human beliefs, in this situation, there are some, so to speak, barely visible principles.

Behind the scenes it is believed that wearing such things is possible, but under one condition: if they did not die. Because people can't go to the other world in all of its garments at the same time, this situation is greatly simplified. According to this superstition, to burn should be exactly that clothes in which the deceased, while still alive, met the last day of his life.
Another priest – Archpriest Alexander Ilyashenko believes that it is not necessary to doubt, whether you wear the clothes of the deceased , or not wear. The priest urges not to give in to superstition and to pray for the soul of the deceased rested.


Those who are going to get rid of all the belongings of the deceased regardless of the superstitions have to do it as gently as possible, so as not to offend their host. This means that we should not just throw the clothes in a landfill. Not worth it and bury it in the ground. You just have to burn the robes.

Some prefer to get rid of all the garments of the deceased family member, giving them to the Church. And there is nothing to be ashamed of. You can also distribute things to needy people.

Advice 9 : How to conduct funerals and memorials

Russian funeral ceremony (or funeral) is based on Slavic pagan views and, of course, to the Orthodox traditions. Among Orthodox Christians there are certain rules of carrying out of funeral and subsequent Wake.
Orthodox Christians hold the funeral rites and funeral
Instruction
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The procedure of conducting the funeral of Orthodox Christians. The coffin with the body of the deceased should stand on the table (or stools), covered with any cloth. The narrow part of the coffin (where are the feet of the deceased) must be facing the exit of the room (or house). The coffin lid must be vertical in the narrow part on the floor. Not recommended to put it in the stairwell. For this there is a hallway or corridor.
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In the house with the deceased must be his portrait in a mourning frame, wreaths, and also any rewards (if any). Mirrors and paintings should be covered with fabrics. This requires an Orthodox burial. All present on the stem (and, of course, directly at the funeral), you need to wear only dark and black colors.
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From the house the coffin with the body of the stand with the narrow end forward. Relatives is strictly forbidden to carry the coffin and the lid. Do it, or funeral, or just friends and acquaintances. Carry the coffin or to the funeral in the Church, or from a burial in a cemetery. It all depends on the last will of the deceased and wishes of his relatives.
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At the cemetery, relatives and friends of the deceased say goodbye to him. Someone pronounces the Eulogy, someone standing silently and listening. After farewell closes the face of the deceased. This is done with the shroud. Then the coffin lid is closed. By the way, if the deceased's funeral in the Church, the cruciform shroud sprinkled on the ground, consecrated in the temple. Cemetery workers carry the coffin to the grave dug, and then lowered it into her.
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After that, the coffin lowered into the grave, throw a handful of earth. First do the relatives of the deceased, then all the other people who came to carry out the deceased on his last journey. Then the grave is filled with earth, set original wooden Orthodox cross with the registration data of the person buried beneath it. Participants of mourning ceremony of laying flowers and wreaths. All. The funeral rite at the end.
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The conduct of commemoration of Orthodox Christians. A Wake is a ritual performed in memory of the recently deceased person. The essence of the memorial is a collective meal (or dinner), which is satisfied with his relatives. The Wake can take place in the house where the deceased more recently lived and to the cemetery in a specially designated place. Orthodox funeral held on the day of burial and in the subsequent certain time of remembrance.
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Orthodox Christians hold a memorial dinner three times. The first funeral occur immediately after the burial, the second – on the ninth day after death, and the third sorocovici (i.e., on the 40th day). Sometimes a Wake is held after six months. Further, the term of this ritual – once a year (day of death). Often commemorate a deceased person and the day of his birth.
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In the process of eating supper, Orthodox Christians pray for the repose of the soul of the deceased. Any action performed during a funeral, is sacred ground. That is why the menu funeral meal determined in advance. The food on the table – simple. No gourmet dishes. The tablecloth should be solid, not color. For a funeral dinner can invite specially and can wait for anyone who wants to remember the dead. In any case linger long there should not be.

Advice 10 : Why not to wear clothes of a deceased person

There is a sign, according to which categorically forbidden to wear clothes of dead people, especially relatives. It is believed that the clothes belonged to the deceased, it keeps negative energy that can be transmitted to other people. Relatives and friends of the people once living person more vulnerable to the negative effects.
Why not to wear clothes of a deceased person

Things of dead people are stored energy

It is considered that things that the deceased often used in life, keep his energy. Known cases where watches stop at the moment of death, after the funeral, broken appliances, clothing things acquire a peculiar smell, which is simply impossible to get rid of. This is due to the fact that the items of the deceased begins to accumulate the necropolis, i.e. the energy of death, which reflects its current state – the death of the physical body. All the possessions of the deceased, endowed with a deadly power, can cause great harm to people who are starting to use them, but positive impacts also do not have. Simply put, things the deceased did not bring good luck.

To give the clothes of a deceased relative

You can give away things a deceased relative strangers who did not know the deceased in life. It is desirable to do it not earlier than the fortieth day after death. It is after this time, the relationship between the soul and the objects of earthly life begins to disappear. To strangers, the energy of death would not have such a strong impact, but close relatives and friends it can be even worse.

Should be particularly careful with things made of natural materials – they are best able to absorb the energy of a deceased person.

What to do with jewelry

Of course, nobody is going to give, and, especially to throw away expensive jewelry that remained after the death of a relative. However, be aware that gold and silver for a long time is able to store information and human energy. By the way, it basically refers to the ornaments that were on the deceased at the time of his death. If still alive, the grandmother gave you a ring that is inherited in your family, then harm it will not bring. You can safely wear it without fear of negative consequences.

If you still want to wear jewelry that was on the deceased at the time of death, it is best to wipe them with Holy water as much as possible to neutralize the negative energy.

How to remove the negative field from the clothes of a deceased relative

There is a method that helps to neutralize the negative energy of a deceased person, remaining on his clothes. Psychics advise to soak the clothing of the deceased in salt water for a few hours and then rinse it well, dry it thoroughly and be sure to iron.

However, this method is effective not in all cases. Sometimes a deceased relative energy is so strong that none of the rituals are not able to remove it.

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