For example, he could have gone in "free swimming", but never met a suitable for a relationship partner. As they say, good is seen at a distance, and just looking back at the harmonious relationship that existed between you and comparing them with the current loneliness that abandoned person can make a logical choice in your favor. Maybe he got tired to wait for love. But could understand that more than anyone not to fall in love. Of course, except you.
If you quit for someone else, not necessarily that this "someone" will be better than you. Very often men and women returning to your ex, because subsequent relationships they are not happy. The explanation for this is simple - the initial stage of the new novels is always discomfort. Two individuals and will persistently oppose each other, engaging in conflict, yet are not "adapting", do not come to a compromise acceptable to both. Why bother and make an effort if a person combines comfort have already been established?", - this question can be asked by many. And, again, will come to be reconciled with the former mate.
Sometimes come back, because I can't forget the joint sex or can't meet a more suitable partner for sexual gratification. This is especially true for men for whom sex is one of the main values in life. Threw the man could miss the home comfort, which is regularly organized by his loving wife. Delicious dinner, freshly laundered and ironed clothes, polished shoes, beautiful home furnishings - all of these amenities can be quickly used. Sundered the Union of the woman often decides to return to the abandoned man because of financial difficulties that her difficult to solve. The one who left could come back, after learning about the improvement of the status, material wealth former partner. All of these examples describe a purely materialistic approach to relationships, but, alas, it has a place in modern society.
Thus, the reason for the return to the abandoned partner may be a great many. And not all of them stem from true love to the left once person.
Advice 2 : Why do men go back to ex
The reinvention of parting
Most men, building a relationship with a woman, are empirically – by trial and error. If the woman is too inexperienced, and still does not have the ability to "smooth things over", the Union is moving irresistibly to the end of its existence. When the number of errors reaches a critical level, the pair parted. But, having lived in solitude, and analyzing bad relationship, a man comes to the conclusion that it is not so bad. The love of a woman survived, and if he puts in enough effort, then the relationship can be restored.
Psychologists believe that the return for this reason only makes sense in the case that the other partner, since the gap time, too, to rethink their behavior, ready to accept and continue to avoid past mistakes. Otherwise, the dynamics of the relationship will remain the same, and, in the end, the couple parted.
The timeout in the relationship
Crises happen in everyone, even the most happy and strong families. The question is, who how to treat them, and how to lead when they occur. Imagine the situation: in a man's life, there have been several events that literally knocked him out of the track (for example, difficulties in work and relationships with superiors, problems with relatives, accidents, etc.). A man cannot simultaneously deal with all problems, believes the culprit of all the ills wife and leaves home, determined to put the relationship on pause. After a while, having lived alone, the man realizes that he had acted recklessly, leaving his beloved family and returns.
According to psychologists, this is the most "harmless" variant of care of the family. A man leaves his family because he wants to be alone and ponder your relationship with a woman. This desire naturally to humans.
Harmonious sexual relationships
No man is ready to refuse from good sex. If it is fully satisfied with sexual relationship with a woman, this is a serious incentive for the return man.
Intimate component is definitely very important for a solid relationship. But if the spouses are United only by sex, and the moral and emotional aspects of marriage are not available, then such a Union will not last long.
The man left her for another woman, but was disappointed in her
Leaving the family to his mistress, the man often thinks that now he will start a happy life, and the former was nothing more than a tuning. But in fact it is not so. It turns out that the former wife was almost perfect in so many ways, and mistress is only good for the occasional meetings, but not for cohabitation. In the end, the man realizes that the wife he will be better.
The return of "the prodigal husband" does not solve those problems because of which there was a gap. And wife is extremely difficult to forgive her husband returned. To revive the relationships fully will never be possible.
A sense of duty
Sometimes a man who met a new love, returned to the family due to the sudden illness of the ex-wife or serious problems with children.
Very well, when a man has a strong sense of duty, but for love it is not relevant, and cannot be the Foundation for family relations.
The man who abandoned his family, not really ready for a change
It happens that the man who created a new family, begins to miss his ex-wife as the closest and native person. And in a new marriage, everything seems strange and unfamiliar. So the man returns.
Psychologists believe that this kind of "partying" can last a lifetime. Man can then walk away, then back again. Not excluded the option of living "for two families".
Advice 3 : Why attempt to remake the man often ends with the collapse of relations?
People are not perfect. We know this almost from childhood, but many women make the mistake of trying to "reshape" the personality of the partner for the sake of their whims.
When the delights of the "honeymoon" period is over, there comes a real life together, many couples are faced with the fact that the partner is not perfect, it has several drawbacks, and in business they can make mistakes as any person. Men in such cases, a more tolerant and forgiving. Women begin to "return to past happiness" urgently "to correct the situation, resorting to not very sensitive methods. They begin to criticize, to teach, to fall into the resentment from the fact that the man does not behave as a woman would want. In the course are a variety of manipulations: from the cloying "magic phrases", reads in women's magazines to provocations in the form of ridicule, vulgar tantrums and rough blackmail. This approach often turns into unpleasant consequences for both.
Wanting to improve the atmosphere of relations, women think more about their own psychological comfort, and not about what feels partner. Building in his imagination an abstract ideal, it assumes what has to be the manto the woman was good and comfortable. This is the main error. As soon as a man hears a list of what it "should", it awakens a desire to protect yourself from psychological abuse. You can get back a defensive response, which will evolve from the desire to please - to outbursts of aggression and the coming cooling.
Whichever you was the most beautiful man in the woman appreciates above all the warmth and supportpsychological safety. Going to a serious relationship, he trusts the woman as well as she to him. And if he lives with her under the same roof, doing this because he feels the woman is not only a physiological object of passion, but understanding, a kindred spirit. Passion can dull, deteriorate, weaken, intensify, and kinship is what normal, healthy man will never refuse and will appreciate that above all else, regardless of the fluctuations of physical attraction.
You think that your man is doing everything "wrong" and you endlessly strive to the place and out of place to give him advice? All this will lead to the fact that it will simply cease to take the initiative, begin to hide their activities. Endless criticism upsetting, nerve-wracking, in men there is a strong inferiority complex next to the wife, who knows everything better than himself. As a result, you either get sleepy "mattress", which is just going to avoid decisions and responsibility or provoke conflict and sustainable aggressive reaction to your quest to evaluate, discuss his actions. Any attempt to comment on his actions come across to become defensive.
To fight for the right to be privy to the business partner in such cases is fraught with the fact that you can spoil the relationship once and man will cease to share with you, you will lose your personal confidence. As a result, sooner or later he will find someone who will take it without negative criticism. Well, if this person is the only companion on fishing and not a secret girlfriend or colleague at work, with which he can associate not only warm and friendly but also romantic relationship. You can be an inspiration and companion in a man's life, but can gain a reputation for annoying "controversy", which causes the usual hostility.
Often women would like to see in your loved one "shoulder" to cry on. If the "vest" does not show a proper emotional involvement in women's issues, the partner is usually inclined to blame the callousness and indifference. Meanwhile, the fact is that men are guided more by logic than by feelings. To get a man in acute situations, for example, to empathize with the woman - it is impossible. He will think of how to effectively solve the problem of where a woman will Express emotion and outrage. Give him the opportunity, but does not require him comforting "baby talk".
To require men to show interest in what interests or excites a woman - from the outfits to the relationship with friends is also pointless. In the best case you will achieve indifferent nod, at worst he just starts to avoid contact by extraneous topics. To complain about life, bad bosses and the prices in the shops, waiting for the "moral support" from men - it is useless. He's just not going to get into all the details. In General, such a situation it is better to discuss with friends. And in men it can cause boredom and irritation, the desire to dissociate itself from the annoying noise. Will seek attention forcibly - risk of becoming uninteresting to the man.
To proceed in a relationship that someone for someone must do this and that - so, doomed himself to the conflict. If the Union men and women everything is done not for themselves but for each other, voluntarily, from the heart - this affection will only grow stronger. As soon as you start trying to dominate, to demand greater attention, rejection of some of the habits and communication with familiar persons to impose a way of life that is alien to your man - the relationship will gradually come to naught. Some time they will exist by inertia. In strong affection a man will go to the victims, but will feel disappointed, or in retaliation will require self-restraint and women. To strengthen the relationship it will not lead, as mutual dissatisfaction will only grow, and will eventually lead to a cooling or rupture.
Any violence against the person in a love Union is stress, heart wound and memorable insult. And if women due to natural causes and mental characteristics accept the need to obey less painful, the male sees the female authority as a personal defeat and loss of dignity.
Feminine wiles, manipulation, provocation and psychological experiments on man almost always lead to the collapse of relations. Insatiable attempts to alter, "improve" partner - end up usually sad. The woman, in the end, can be in insulting form sent in search of a more suitable pair, and with the recommendation to grab your favorite dog. Partner, having gone through the gap, goes towards a new life - and love. As a rule, the man quickly finds himself less obstinate couple, with the qualities that are sought in past relationships.
You need to understand that men in search of a pair of more constructive and twice on the same "rake" comes rarely. And women as being more emotional, often looking to replace lost love, unconsciously choosing a partner with mental characteristics and habits peculiar to their "ex". As a result, the cycle repeats anew, and a wonderful, warm and comfortable initially, the relationship gradually cooled and crack.
Appreciate those who are close to you. Because you also not perfect. Let us remember the famous biblical expression: "Love does not seek its own, is not puffed up..." Try to be respectful to other people's inner peace and personal space - only then you will be considered a family man, truly "his" mate, and to which, despite minor and major flaws, will pull always.