To identify the motive. People in communication is looking for, above all, benefits. Everyone is their own: to get rid of loneliness, to gain new knowledge, make contacts in a particular environment, showing off to new friends, increasing their self-esteem. Even if the person is not familiar (let's say it's just a nickname on the Internet), it still leaves traces of their mental activity. And before you start communicating, it would be good to drive his name, email address (or both username if it is unique enough) on the Internet. If you find that stunning handsome has the habit to borrow money from their virtual girlfriends and disappear without a trace, the question of correspondence should fall off by itself.
Please, which is nice to carry. If it's a social network, it is useful to see the interests or place of residence of the person, and then come up with a question that the conversation will be easy and pleasant to answer, showing knowledge of the subject. It is not necessary to ask direct and simple questions like: "Scared to skydive?". From a layman to communicate. Better dig a little deeper to the subject to be brought to the interlocutor his own man, even as a newbie.
Skills that may be of interest to the interlocutor. This method is good when a person is open to communication, talking openly about their interests, endeavouring to show himself, puts a lot of personal photos, especially the beach, home from parties. Here it is appropriate to Express sympathy (but without compulsion and outright flattery) and to offer a communication, telling a little about yourself. A neat phrase in the spirit: "You seem/seemed like a nice and open person. I think we will be interested to talk about..." In this case, it is appropriate to offer help in the area that seems most interesting. If a girl is interested in a certain direction in music, you can expand your horizons, to interest her.
Good manners. The man who seeks to reduce the distance in communication, often alarming and off-putting. And the person who begins the conversation in a soft, delicate expressions, retains a sincere tone and not trying to embellish and invent, is the most favorable impression. In communicating by correspondence, the first two or three letters are the most important. In order to mask some of the flaws (for example, illiteracy or ignorance of complex words), it is necessary to use dictionaries, books, magazines, websites - additional literature.
Originality. Remember the question of the Soviet film: "Hello. Can you tell me where is nofelet?" If the source person is young and easy, then after the greeting, you can write funny question that will be of interest. "Ping-pong correspondence" is a special sport that values humor and the ability to think. But these skills need to hone.
Rudeness and impudence, and in some cases illiteracy, capable of repelling even the most gentle person.
An interesting letter is from the original question, an interesting source of information and veiled compliment.
Advice 2 : How original to start a conversation
The success of the attempt to meet very often depends on the first phrase said cute member of the opposite sex. Originally started a conversation – it's almost a guarantee that you will be interested in the favourite person.
Ask for help. This method of Dating is suitable for girls and for boys. Say, for example, "I'm in this town where you can relax?", "Look, please, how tied my tie I'm going to an important meeting!". Or ask where the nearest food shop, home appliances, power tools. In the store you can ask the opinion about any product, film etc is Very touching girls trying to choose a jig saw or a screwdriver in such a situation no guy will refuse the help of a charming lady.
Offer assistance. This method is as effective as the first, but to use it you can not in any situation is a pretty object should need help. For example, if you see a beautiful girl getting wet in the rain, offer her a place under your umbrella. Or collect spilled from a torn package products. And yet help, and we will have time to stop.
Tell a compliment. In this case, it is important not to overdo it – the praise must be sincere and appropriate. "You look amazing!", "You have the most charming smile I've ever seen!" - compliments will not leave indifferent neither girls nor guys.
Show gallantry or do something enjoyable. For example, bring sunbathing on the beach girl ice cream or offer a ride freezing at the bus stop lady. Get creative and familiarity you provided!
Connect your sense of humor. Try to come up with something original, but if this is difficult you can use ready-made phrases: "Here a white rabbit run through here?", "I'm writing an article about how Dating girls, can I ask you a few questions?", "You Light my messenger?", "Sorry, I forgot your phone number, will you lend me yours?", "Hello, I'm from the employment service, can I get you something to take?".