Instruction
1
Analyze your relationship, including intimate. It is very important how treats your husband, if you do not have any preferences, what you agreed with him in advance. Gentleness and respect is very important in order to understand whether male children in General, and it is up to you. Of course, it is worth considering his temperament, but if you've been together for quite a long time, so have become accustomed to the peculiarities of his character.
2
Remember how the man was collected and responsible in solving problems in the family. If he (at least initially) is not addressed to you or anyone else for help, then chances are it's good enough father-to-be. Socialize with his friends. If they evaluate him as a decent man and then I remember about when he came to their aid, it is a good sign.
3
Remember that relationships exist in the family of his parents. But even if his parents love children, it does not mean that your husband has maintained this position. Listen to how he talks about his parents, when they're not around. Needless cherished child may inwardly protest against the blind parental love, and it is an internal rejection usually then pursues him all his life. In this case, the husband may not talk about mom or dad or remember them only in connection with some significant occasions (a wedding day, anniversary). If his family had a healthy relationship, and that's not evidence that your husband wants children, so how could different circumstances, which prevent him to perceive positive potential offspring.
4
Pay attention to what the relationship was between your parents and husband. Usually after the baby is born the mother-in-law in mothering and a grandson, and a daughter, almost settled in the apartment of a young family that your husband may not like it. First, because the man ceases to feel comfortable when the house is always a stranger, essentially. Secondly, if the man accepts responsibility for his family, he becomes, at least, it's a shame that someone is trying to shift the responsibility on themselves, albeit with good intentions.
5
If your husband grew up in a single-parent family (with mother), then its negative attitude to the possibility of paternity may be affected by the fear of responsibility for the unborn child. In addition, if his mother unfriendly comments about the former husband, and it could be bad for your husband's children because he is afraid that you, in the event of a breakup, behave in the same way as his mother.
6
If you and your husband this is not the first marriage or he has a child, pay attention to how he speaks about his former family does with the children on their own initiative. If you already have children, ask them how it relates to my stepfather when her husband's not around. If children say that they do not like, do not jump to conclusions. Maybe your husband subconsciously jealous of you to your ex-husband, but the children you want. And if they almost from the first days begin to say to him "dad," something he's just happy with him playing or doing household chores without pressure, then rejoice you: your husband truly loves your childrenand therefore you. Therefore, a new child – only a matter of time.
7
If your husband has younger sisters or brothers, when you meet with them pay attention to what they say about your husband. If sufficient warmth without much discontent, so your husband did not hurt them deliberately when they were young. If he has nieces and nephews and they love uncle, try to meet them. Remember that brothers and sisters always kind of compete with each other. This can induce your husband to think about children in your family.
8
Ask him about it bluntly, because the family should not be misunderstandings on important issues. If he's moving the conversation to another topic or respond directly, so he's not ready for this decision. And don't ask him this question too often, wait at least a few months before to ask him about it again.