But the real alcoholics firmly believe in his strength of will and continue to insist that they can quit drinking on their own, citing many of the reasons that justify drunkenness. Therefore, the family must cease to indulge the weaknesses of the addict and encourage him to see a specialist.
First, stop covering alcoholic, because the family almost always ignores the problem, to shield it and protect it from problems. Therefore, you no longer need to cover up man from his superiors or friends, allowing the alcoholic to independently face the consequences of his drunkenness. And now, in the moments when he is clearly aware of the problems caused by alcoholism, you need to start talking about the possible solutions to the problem.
Talk about treatment gently but regularly, placing this idea in the brain of the patient. Most importantly, do not push him, because the alcoholic is a weak person, and in any case not to start a conversation about the treatment at the time of his intoxication. It is important to remember that the treatment will only succeed if there is sincere desire of the patient.
Don't intimidate an alcoholic, do not force him to make a choice, because, most likely, he will not be in your favor. People in the condition of stress will act rashly, so it is wiser just to tell us about his attitude to the problem and what you see out. It is not necessary to question and discuss it, you just need to put the person before the fact.
As additional support, attract friends that are trusted by the alcoholic. Especially effective is the support of friends, cope with alcohol addiction, the main thing that they genuinely wanted to help the sick. And most importantly, you need to have a clear plan of action in order not to get lost in the moment when the alcoholic will agree to treatment.
How to get the alcoholic to treatment. To go to a rehab clinic and start to heal from alcoholism, you need first of all to recognize themselves as an alcoholic to accept the fact that sick of a serious illness and require equally serious treatment. But the problem is that most alcoholics do not consider themselves sick.
How to make an alcoholic be treated? WHAT to DO IF the Alcoholic does not want to be treated? 4. Declare the consequences. Inform the alcoholic that as long as he does not accept treatment, you will act - not to punish him, and in order to protect themselves and their families from the devastating effects of his drinking. Your actions may range from refusing to go to the party to the left.
Advice 2 : How to convince an alcoholic to be treated
An alcoholic is always sure that he can quit drinking at any time, should he want it. It is a syndrome of false confidence. However, the recognition of that fact that he is an alcoholic, gives hope. Because the vast majority do not consider themselves as such, calling his habit of drinking almost daily for a long time and not to leave the heavily common weakness and addiction to alcohol and love to drive, love etc. If the person is aware of their evil passions, but, nevertheless, doesn't want to be treated, you can try to convince him of the advisability of treatment.
Choose to talk the "right" time. It is not necessary to start conversation and persuasion, if the person is drunk or is in a state of hangover. The conversation appropriate after another of the problems associated with alcohol (drunken money, broken car, a scandal with the neighbors, etc.). Make sure that an alcoholic is not inflated, is located in a peaceful mood, and conform themselves to the same sample – be calm, balanced, confident in their rightness. Avoid whiny notes in the voice and words to the conscience.
Be specific and objective in communicating with the alcoholic. Tell him what he really complicates the lives of loved ones. Give specific facts or remind him if he forgot about something during a binge. Convey to him my concern and anxiety on the fact of his drunkenness, note that willing to help and support him in the fight against disease. Let them know that you will not leave him because you love, but insist on treatment. It is because like.
Remove yourself from the role of rescuer. If you have repeatedly had to rescue the alcoholic from unpleasant situations, then the decision to convince him of the need of treatment you should stop all rescue efforts. The type of slip it in a deranged view of home from the street, separating his superiors, the distribution of its debts to creditors, etc. Let him know that it will be always. Be steadfast in your decision. Give him to decide from now on all troubles related to alcohol use.
Collect and provide alcoholic accurate and extensive information about modern treatment of alcoholism. Read together, articles, reviews, recommendations. Go on reception to the psychiatrist together (don't be ashamed if you decided to save a loved one). If he rests and does not want to go to counseling, try to invite the psychiatrist back home. Tell the alcoholic that this visit is anonymous in nature, i.e. neither the neighbours nor colleagues do not know the guest was in your home.
If the alcoholic does not want to listen to your persuasion, away from the conversation, try to call for help his family, relatives, friends, colleagues. Select the one whose opinion he listens, appreciates it and respects it. Well, if the environment of the alcoholic is the person in the recent past, too much drinking, but to get rid of this addiction because I had a course of treatment. Generally "friends by misfortune" listen to each other as to lie in vain, and to persuade them to nothing. The more people will Express the alcoholic his concern about his woes, the more often there will be conversations about treatment, the better. Man, it would be difficult to prove to you your, in his view, is wrong about his behavior.
Never stand in front of an alcoholic conditions you are not willing to perform. For example, many women scare men to divorce, but they are not going to get a divorce. Put conditions, but only those that you really can make: don't cook him dinner, do not wash his underwear, not to lie to his leadership or his mother. But remember, it costs you time to step away from his decision, as an alcoholic will understand that you are not solid in its intentions, and will continue with impunity to do what he wants, and all of your conditions and threats will be zero cost.
Think of yourself and in no case do not blame yourself for what your loved one has become an alcoholic, which is characteristic of many women. Search for communicating with people experiencing a similar situation, they will understand you, than those whose lives are happy and serene (next to them you can feel aggrieved, deprived, and there is not far to full of complex and protracted depression, and then you certainly will not be able to help your loved one). Don't forget to love yourself to indulge from time to time, to follow him. Don't drop your Hobbies, a hobby. Life with an alcoholic is difficult, but that is life, and only depends on you how it goes.