Give her a date to matchmaking on Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday or Sunday. In old times Russian people believed that these days "light".
Prepare a generous meal. This must be done regardless of whether you will agree to the wedding or not. A richly laid table is an ancient Russian tradition which lost its relevance to the present day. In Russian, even have about this proverb: "Skinny groom good show the way."
Prepare to meet matchmakers bogus brides. Dress in a girly outfit grandma or a man. Fun beat rite, but do not tighten.
Thank the parents of the groom for the attention and shown respect. Then invite your in-laws for a table.
Your daughter should not be present during courtship, as discussed material issues. This is also an old Russian custom.
If you have something not satisfied with the offer, ask the matchmakers time for reflection. Explain that you need time to get more acquainted with the groom. Try not to insult the groom and his parents. Refuse delicately and politely.
Even if you are completely happy prospective groom, follow the rules of wedding etiquette and don't settle immediately. Take at least a symbolic time to think. Before making the decision, the head of the family is interested in the views of all family members and then invited into the room the bride herself, which I ask consent to the marriage. Before that, she needs to give his future mother-in-law a bouquet of flowers.
Invite the matchmakers to re-visit you. This must be done in that case, if you still decided to give their daughter to the groom.
Discuss with the parents of the bridegroom the date of the engagement. At this event discuss the details of the wedding and negotiating the costs, the dowry and the number of guests from both sides.
Advice 2 : How to meet the parents of young
Meeting the parents of the newlyweds – a special ritual that symbolizes the tradition of family values and intergenerational linkages. Currently, the ritual of meeting a little easier and significantly transformed, but not lost all its beauty and charm, symbolic significance.
You will need
- - towels;
- - loaf;
- silver saltcellar with salt;
- - rose petals;
- - candy;
- - millet;
- - Fig;
- - glasses;
- - med;
- - champagne;
- - the icon.
The tradition to celebrate the young has suffered a lot of changes, so increasingly, this ritual is carried out not on the doorstep of the groom's parents, and at the door of the restaurant, Banquet hall or cafe. Guests must line up in a corridor, holding up a pair of one beautiful rose. At the end of the corridor newlyweds are greeted by the groom's mother, in the hands of the loaf with a silver salt, and the father with the icon of St. Nicholas or the virgin, the towel. The bride needs to hold a tray of glasses filled with champagne, mother – crystal a plate with honey and a spoon. Witnesses are standing opposite each other (at a small distance from married parents), holding a large painted towel.
The groom must carry the bride through a corridor at the hands of the invited guests at this dot the way the young flowers, rose petals, chocolates, money or rice (you can use wheat or grain). According to the old legend, the event promises a young family prosperity, happiness and long life. Approaching parents, the couple must bow from the waist, respectfully. By the way, at the time of passage of the corridor it is possible to arrange the newly weds some tests or ask questions.
Parents bless the children and give it an icon, give useful advice, expressing wishes. Mother in law teaches loaf, young needs to bite off a piece and dip in salt, to treat each other. This gesture symbolizes the young care about each other, they will need to take throughout life. You need to compare the broken pieces of bread, whose more, he will be the master in the family.
Traditionally, the young have to divide the loaf between all the guests, the groom hands out the bread your family and guests, and the bride her. Some parents remove the loaf and not allow anyone to touch him, the next day take as a donation to the Church. It is believed that this rite promises the newlyweds harmony and peace in the house.
Father-in-law can give the bride a certificate that it is with great joy accepted into their family. Then they come to the mother of the bride that feeds them honey and wants a never-ending honeymoon. The bride's father holds young champagne that must be drunk to the dregs. Empty glasses are broken fortunately, the fragments determine who is the first born in the family. If the main part of fragments of large boy, if the small – waiting for a girl.
The groom's father ties the hands of the young prepared with a towel and brings to the witnesses. So they must go hand in hand all their lives. Witnesses spread out in front of the bride and groom towel, young stand up to him, the parents showered the young millet for the birth of the offspring, coins for prosperity at home, sweets for the sweet life. Then mom untie their hands, then the towel kept as a family heirloom, passing on the inheritance.