For blessing in advance to get an icon. You will need to transfer to a new family where the icon will act as a kind of relic. The girl usually bless the icon of the Mother of God. However, the Church does not give any precise indications about this. So if your family have an icon, which may be transmitted from generation to generation, you can bless it. There are cases when the parents of the bride and groom jointly purchase the icon and give young.
Bless the daughter can be when the groom will come to her parental home to ask the hand of his future wife. However, traditions change over time. Now it is customary to give a blessing only after the groom pays the ransom, will stand all tests and will show you the bride to guests.
After all the conventions are made and guests are going to go to the registry office, take the bride and groom in a separate room. The blessing should be given in the presence of only the closest people. It would be nice if this can be the godparents of the bride. The blessing is given not only daughter, but her future husband, as you agree to live as one family.
When all that's necessary for the blessings gathered, you can begin. The bride and groom have to stand in front of you. Pick up the icon, which will bless. Turn her face to the young. Then tell them their parting words. Do not prepare a long speech, quite sincerely wish happiness and love. Remember - it's not so much custom, how much wish all the best to your daughter in a new family.
After parting speeches have a three-fold cross turns to the bride and groom. They should then kiss the icon, and then cross.
If after the traditional wedding, the couple decides to get married in the Church it is advisable to take the icons which their blessed parents.
Advice 2: Blessing of the groom
And then came the day – your children are going to get married. In addition, they don't just want to sign in one of the offices of the Registrar, they are determined to still get married in the Church. And this will agree, very important step is to make the knot in front of God. Since this event involves a lot of signs and also traditions. Very much in this case depends on the parents of the groom and bride – without them in this Ordinance does not do. After all, parents should to bless their children on marriage.
Before leaving for the wedding in the Church, at the home of the bride and groom's parents bless their children. If it turns out that parents not, this function is performed by the elders in the family.
So parents bless the groom. For this they need the icon of the Savior. Parents stand next to each other. The father holds an icon and three times rebaptized son, who stands before him. After this he gives the icon of the mother who does the same thing. The groom must cross and kiss the icon.
At the same time, but in the house of the bride's parents bless her. They use the icon of the Mother of God. The bride's parents doing the very same thing that the parents of the groom, that is, three times bless her.
After the blessing the parents all go to Church. In the Church parents are standing behind the newlyweds. They should be first among all guests. Parents of the groomusually stand on the right side, that is from his side of the groom. The bride's parents are to the left of her.
After the wedding comes to an end, and the newlyweds come home, the parents according to Russian tradition meet them with bread and salt. They once again bless the newlyweds with an icon, and holding it, usually the father of the groom. And a meal is in the hands of the mother of the groom. Here is the blessing and the wedding in the Church. If you want to, the couple was happily married, the whole process of blessing must pass by all the canons and traditions.
Bless icons of Jesus Christ and the Kazan Mother of God. These icons are considered the custodians of a new family and home of the newlyweds are put into the Holy corner.
In iconic benches or Church sell special sets of icons for the blessing of the newlyweds during the wedding. You will also need small towels, as the icons can not be taken with bare hands.
Advice 3: How to bless the bride and groom
In the old days that consisted of only a Church marriage could not be and speeches about the wedding without parental blessing. Even if the bride and groom got engaged secretly without parental consent, then they tried to earn their forgiveness, and even retroactively to the marriage blessing. It was believed that only in this case their marriage will be truly pleasing to God. Now marriages are not registered in the Church and in the offices of the Registrar. However, in Orthodox families there is still the ritual of parental blessing.
Before marriage the groom's parents bless the son, and the bride's parents – daughter. This must be done before the groom coming for the bride and begin the ceremony of redemption, that is, every family makes it at home.
The father and mother of the groom is supposed to stand close to each other right in front of the son, but the father needs to keep the icon with the image of Christ. Religious canons of the groom is supposed, in the blessing to kneel. The father three times, baptizes the son of the icon, and then transmits the icon of the mother. She's doing exactly the same things. The groom is supposed then to make the sign of the sign of the cross and kiss the face of Christ (that is to kiss the icon).
The same ceremony must make the father and mother of the bride at her house. Only instead of icons with the image of Christ, they bless the daughter of an icon of the virgin.
After you have conducted the bride, all going to the wedding ceremony. If the registry office is a wedding in the Church, parents of the newlyweds are supposed to stand behind them on both sides. The father and mother of the groom takes place closer to the son, the bride's parents, respectively, closer to daughter. Once the sacrament of marriage will come the groom's parents return home to prepare for the meeting of the young husband and wife.
Before the young come into the house or in another room with my husband's parents once again bless them with the icon, then bring them a traditional treat: a wedding loaf (bread and salt). By tradition, the young must in turn take a bite out of it.
People who poorly adhere to religious canons, and even atheists often bless their children before the wedding. Only this rite is performed without the use of icons, and is more of a symbolic role: wishes happiness to young friendly and long life in marriage.