Advice 1: How to remember six months

After the death of the person there is a kind of obligatory rites several times a year (first after death) to remember the dead. Of course, to remember the deceased in the Church should as often as possible, not priravnivaetsya to any dates, because the main thing here is the prayer for the repose of the dead. However, in the hectic weekdays, a year after the death of people simply by going to the grave, forget to look into the Church, and many do not know, generally when and how they should commemorate the dead.
How to remember six months
Pray for the deceased on the morning, when it was six months since the death of a loved one. This should be done at home in front of the icon, a photograph of the deceased and pre-lit candle. Visit the Church before going to the grave. This should be done before the start of the Church service. Put a donation to the Church and buy a candle (required).
Submit a note with the name of the deceased in the appropriate box of the temple by ordering a special ceremony. It is best if you order your remembrance at the offertory. In this case, a special communion bread for the dead take a little piece and later put it in a special bowl of Holy water symbolizing the washing of his sins.
Sludge in the Church Requiem service after the divine Liturgy, putting bought a candle for the repose. It is assumed that prayer is much more effective for the deceased if on the same day itself commemorating communion.
Buy another candle when leaving the Church, to deliver her to the cemetery at the grave of the deceased.

Go to the cemetery immediately after the service in the Church.
Lit the lantern or just a candle, new in the Church. Cover near the graves of a small table with food in order to eat together with the deceased. According to legend it is believed that the spirit of the deceased hovers in the clouds is next. You should also put a few pieces of food on the grave. It is important to observe positions, if any at the time of remembrance.
Let us pray for the repose of the soul of the deceased near the grave. Gather everyone who visited the grave of the deceased and invite home for a memorial table. Food on the table should only be allowed by the Church at the time of remembrance (post – lean, and depending on the day of the week is the remembrance).
Necessary before meals to make to lithium. This can be done by a layperson, reading a prayer, respectively.

Give first before people start eating, the kutia (porridge) made from wheat or rice with raisins and honey.
Start the meal, each time remembering the good deeds and actions of the deceased. It hence the name "Funeral" - means to remember.
Attention! Remembering the deceased should abstain from alcohol, even if the dead liked to drink.

Advice 2 : How to conduct a funeral

The funeral is quite an elaborate funeral tradition, common in most cultures. On the day of the funeral occurs treat as the memory of the deceased, and as in the day of the funeral, and certain days later.
How to conduct a funeral

Of some Nations, the tomb of the imposed sacrifice consumed after food. Other practices read about holding the burial feasts (military fun). This tradition was common among the Slavic and Germanic tribes, the ancient Greeks. In other places, the deceased accompanied the funeral procession and crying.

We have spread the Christian custom of holding a Wake. According to the Orthodox Canon of conduct funerals have three times: the day of the funeral, on the ninth day and the fortieth. They are in a funeral Banquet. The same custom exists in many religions. The meaning of this ritual is very deep. Believing in the immortality of the soul, people celebrate the approach of the deceased towards God, while simultaneously paying tribute to him as a good man. No wonder adopted or speaking of the dead well, or not at all to say.

In the process of commemoration included prayers have departed from this world man. In General, all actions on such rituals have deep meaning, even the menu the meal selection is not accidental.

So how do you properly hold a Wake?

  1. Before the meal, it is necessary to read the prayer "Our father". The minimum that is needed, as it is desirable to make the litany and singing the 90th Psalm (invite the so-called "singing"). In the process of commemoration is necessary to remember the deceased, and only his positive qualities and actions that are prohibited profanity, laughter, jokes, drunkenness.

  2. Menu it is undesirable to do intense. On the contrary – a necessary modesty and simplicity, as the abundance of dishes is not beneficial to the process of the ritual. The first course, which is necessary, is the so-called kutya - a porridge made from whole grains of millet, or rice, seasoned with honey and raisins. Moreover, it should be sprinkled with Holy water, or to bless during the service. Kutia is a symbol of eternal life in Christ.

  3. Especially strictly necessary to approach to drawing up menus during Easter, as it must be limited in food. And in the Wake are not for the feast, and as the occasion to remember the deceased.

  4. When you get a Wake a week during lent, they should be postponed until the weekend because these days post the most restrictive.

  5. Men at the funeral should be with their heads uncovered – women are the opposite. The commemoration of the day of the funeral is available to all attendees, as it is a time of farewell with the deceased. On the ninth day the relatives of the deceased. And on the fortieth everyone to remember the dead.

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