You will need
- Knowledge of Church etiquette
When meeting with the priest not to say "Hello" and strive to shake hands. Devout members ask for a blessing, bow at the waist, touching the ground, and say: "Father John, bless". To be baptized however. If you don't know the name of the priest can say: "Father, bless". The hands folded palms up: right hand over left. The priest applied the sign of the cross with the words "God bless" or "In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy spirit" and puts his right hand on the palm of your hand. The response is to kiss the hand that often confuses novorochennyh parishioners. Shy is not worth it, because, lobesa the priest's hand, you are touching invisible to the forthcoming Christ, who blesses you. The same rule applies when parting with the priest.
The blessing appropriate to ask before a long trip, in difficult circumstances, for example, before a surgical operation. An important meaning of the blessing is the permission, permission, farewell.
According to etiquette, to the priest upon "you". This is expressed in reverence and awe. Tactless to ask for blessing by the priest during the service, when he goes to the place of confession or baptism. If a member meets a priest on the street, to ask for blessings. But if the priest is busy or in a hurry, it's advisable to bow. The deacon assistant priest blessings don't ask. If you want to access it, you might say, for example: "Father deacon, will there be tomorrow a christening?
If you want to invite a priest home for performing religious rites, it can be done both in person and on the phone. In a telephone conversation also call "Bless me, father," and shall state the nature of the request. Ending the conversation, you need to thank and, again, ask for a blessing.
Turning to the priest in writing, used the form "Reverend" (when referring to the priest), "the very Reverend" (when referring to the Archpriest).
In the tradition of Orthodoxy to the priest do not address with the words: "Holy father". Instead, say "honest father".
Advice 2: How to ask a question to the priest
If you are making your first steps on the way to Church, it is only natural that you have different issues. Sometimes you want to know something about the external, ritual side of Church life. Sometimes you need to ask about something more serious, for example, asking for advice in difficult situations. But many are shy or afraid to approach the priest.
Select a convenient time. It is unacceptable to distract the priest while making Sacraments. It is best to approach the priest after the service. First you need to ask the father's blessings. Fold the arms in cross: right on left, palms up. Having received the blessing, kiss the priest's hand. It is not only a sign of reverence to the person wearing the priestly dignity, but most importantly - acceptance of the blessing of The Lord. Then you can ask a question.
There is nothing wrong if you don't know how to behave in a particular case (how to ask for blessings, how to put a candle, how to venerate the icons, etc.). If you find it hard to commit some kind of ritual (for example, to ask the blessing), don't force yourself. Your faith must be free and voluntary, and the performance of rites - conscious. The priest will be friendly to you in any way, even if your experience of Church life is very small.
In many parishes there is a designated time for conversation with parishioners. This is the most suitable option in order to ask a question, it is possible to be sure that the priest has time for you. If such conversation in the temple is not carried out, simply ask the priest when he can fit you in.
Many people ask questions to the priest during his own confession. It is quite acceptable, but only need to remember that you should not too long delay the priest, surely he will confess and other parishioners, and it takes a lot of time. Besides, confession is a sacrament that requires a serious attitude of prayer and a deep desire to be cleansed from sin. If you still want to ask your question during confession, consider whether it is appropriate.
Now widely practiced fellowship with the priests via the Internet. On various websites, forums, social networks have the opportunity to ask a particular priest. This is often done anonymously, which, of course, very convenient. But we must remember that not all the questions the priest is able to meet virtually. He can only give General advice or direct your thoughts in a certain direction. But relying on such virtual communication is not necessary, as only in a personal conversation the priest will be able to delve deeply into your situation.
Do not despair if the answer to the question you are not satisfied or even upset. It can be good for you, because then you will be able to take a fresh look at the situation, and perhaps understand their own mistakes. No matter how developed your communication with the priest, try to find an answer to your question within the Church. Read books, articles on Orthodox sites, chat with believers, and God will reveal to you how to do in a given situation.
To find his spiritual father - a task very difficult. Even those who a few years regularly goes to Church, very often there is no Confessor. But we should strive to do, because the priest who knows your spiritual life can help you in different situations.