The Church does not pray for suicide, never, in any day, under any circumstances, and it is useless to beg the priests. With the exception of those who committed suicide in a state of mental disorder, not being able to answer for their actions, and this is confirmed by a doctor's note. These people remembered the same as all, but only with the written permission of the Bishop.
Why not commemorate suicide
The Church refuses memorial suicide is not because he mourns their plight or sympathize with the grief of their loved ones. She does this for the same reason for not praying for the unbaptized.
The life God gives, only He has the right to decide when it will end – no matter how pleasant the life of a person. From the point of view of a Christian's earthly life is the path of trials to be undertaken with humility, recognizing their value for spiritual growth. Unauthorized abandoning of life and from the trials that it brings, a person puts their will above the will of God, thereby demonstrating understanding of the world, it is absolutely not relevant to the Christian faith.
Such a person is outside the Church – like necromania, therefore she has nothing for him to do. Of course, in such a situation, the person betting, and other sins, but at least they assume the fundamental possibility of repentance, suicide deliberately cut yourself this way. Priests do not claim that for such people there is absolutely no hope to know everything about a person's post-mortem fate can only be God, but the suicide has to fully delegate to His will.
The inability of the Church makes remembrance of loved ones suicide to find at least some solace in private – individual, home prayer. An outright ban on private prayer for suicide in the Church does not exist, but it can be done exclusively with the blessing of the Confessor. However, the priests are reluctant to give such blessings, and there are serious reasons.
Prayer for a suicidal person to a certain extent, becomes a manifestation of pride: the person who does it, it may seem that he is merciful Church or even God himself. In addition, praying for someone, a Christian becomes a partaker of the state of mind of this man. The soul of a suicide leaves the world in a state of despair, discouragement or even bitterness, of hostility to God. This state can be "infected" whoever is praying for him, so the priests do not suggest to pray for the suicides.
If the blessing of the priest still received, you need to read the prayer of St. Leo of Optina. A good way to help the soul of a suicide – the distribution of alms to the needy.
Advice 2 : Why not bury suicides in the Orthodox Church
The funeral of the faithful Orthodox people ask God to grant Paradise to the deceased. Every member of the Church of Christ must be inveterate. But in the canonical practice of the Church prohibited the funeral of suicides, and regardless of, Christian Lee was or not. This is due to the fact that the suicide on their own commit the sin of killing his personality. From Scripture it is known that murderers will not inherit the Kingdom of heaven. Except when a person is able to repent. At the suicide of the possibility of repentance remains. So committing this crime with the sin of murder and goes into eternity.
Orthodox faith determines that the point in the funeral of suicides there is a measure of the overall presentation of the essence of the future life. The attainment of Paradise is not only a goal or reward for a person. The Kingdom of heaven is the consequence of human life. Death is the transition from one state to another, the vector of people's lives on earth and goes into eternity.
The main cause of suicide is the belief of man is that his life became unbearable and turned into hell. If a person thinks that he lives in hell and dies according to his will, the idea of hell follows him in another world. It turns out that the Church does not violate human freedom. If he went on the suicide mission if all of life is hell and the person turns to God, but, on the contrary, violates the divine plan about yourself, the Church does to help. The man himself made a choice.
However, there may be reasons for the burial of suicides. For example, when there is a medical certificate of psychicism personality disorder, when a person because of this disease itself wounded to death. In this case the funeral can be made with the permission of the Bishop. But these cases are not as frequent.