If you found out that your husband has a lover, try first to calm the emotions. No need to throw a tantrum, scandal. Sit down and calmly think about it: if you want to keep the family together? Often, in spite of the offense, the woman still loves her husband and doesn't want to ruin the family unit.
In any case, do not resort to the help of various "wizards", "hereditary magicians and other charlatans, promising an absolute guarantee lapel or put a curse on the other woman. Remember that you simply throw money to the wind.
Busting the desire to physically deal with the mistress of the husband, even if everything inside is boiling with anger, and his hands are so itchy to "teach the bitch". Do not stoop to insults rozluchnytsi not humiliate myself in her eyes, and especially in the eyes of her husband! Be wise woman.
Similarly, we should not take revenge on lover's wife in more subtle ways. For example, to disseminate discrediting information, especially among her relatives, friends and acquaintances. Especially don't call her, don't threaten. In most cases it will only lead to further cooling of the husband and his distancing from you.
Do not press on pity, trying to explain to her how wrong and unworthy she arrives, taking away from family a married man. In the best case, the lover would be embarrassed, even feel a certain remorse. Remember that she may laugh at you with malevolent triumph.
Try again become for the spouse the very best, beloved, beautiful and desirable woman in the world. For that, look to the mistress, and objectively. Do your best to find the answer to the question: "What does he see in her that I don't have me?" And act depending on the answer. Maybe you need to be a little nicer, sexier. Remember: family happiness is in your hands.