How to keep a husband from mother in law

Female, married, expects that she and her husband will be strong, happy family. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Nervousness, disorder in the relations of the spouses makes a mother-in-law. Yes, there are mothers who could not be reconciled with the idea that their beloved boys came out from under parental care and control. My mother tries to control every step of the son constantly comes up with the visits, inspections or calling several times a day, demanding the report. Of course, this is a very nervous wife.

Instruction

1. Can understand your frustration, irritation. However, please refrain from quarrels, scandals, the more ultimatums: "either I Or she." Don't forget that your husband is already very hard, because he was literally between two fires.
2. Do not try to prevent him from meeting with his mother, this will only worsen the situation. Almost certainly in the eyes of husband, relatives and acquaintances you will appear spiteful, insensitive, jealous and selfish (make no mistake, mother-in-law will not regret for this time and effort).
3. Better try to talk seriously with your spouse. Choose the right moment and guide the conversation in a calm, reasonable tone. In no case do not scold the mother-in-law, do not use expressions like: "if you only Knew how your mother got me!" The husband then out of pure principle, will begin to remember how many times his enraged mother-in-law. And the conversation will end with the transition to the individual and scandal.
4. Instead, immediately ask: "I understand she's your mother, she's worried about you, wants everything to be okay." And then move on to the main point: "But, honey, you're not a boy! You're a grown, independent man, the head of the family. Need to make it clear to her that you cannot be treated like a helpless baby." With this approach, the husband is much calmer perceive your words. Especially, he thought and worried how to escape from this suffocating maternal care.
5. Consider together how, under any pretext, to reduce to a reasonable minimum the visits of the husband to his mother. It is sometimes very difficult, because some mother-in-law or start to hurt (say, such is the fate of all mothers who have grown and no longer needed), or accused the son of ingratitude, selfishness (I gave birth to you, raised you and now the mother to spit, to your wife in the first place). But it is absolutely necessary. Can refer to a very busy husband at work, for example. But his poor health: that's when you mother-in-law will not get off.