The legal consequences of gossip
Spreading rumors and gossip is a phenomenon that occurs in my life often enough. People who do this can and should be punished. According to the legislation of the Russian Federation, in the Criminal code there is article 129, which provides for legal punishment for people slandering anyone. If you have evidence that this or that citizen really has spread about you about damaging information, you can file a claim in court.
However, as a rule, to prove such an act can be difficult.
How to get revenge on the man for gossip, lies and rumours
If the person is famous for the love to the dissolution of gossip and rumors, not only can you go to court, but also to come up with a fair punishment.
Just remember that the punishment of the offender should not go beyond the law.
Use against the offender's own gun. Tell your friend that trusted this man, and he not only betrayed you and told someone your secrets, but remember to embellish and to turn. Surely after such information people will begin to avoid contact with the gossip, the fear of being in such an unpleasant situation.
Another way of punishment for gossip - committing petty mischief. If you know where a person lives, his exact address and call any flowers or food and make a reservation in his name. Let this order will be released at a fairly decent sum of money. Of course, your abuser is not going to pay, but spoiled the mood is guaranteed.
In addition, if gossip spreads your girl friend, and she has a husband, you can use a flower delivery. Send her a gift and ask the courier to do the caption: "Thank you for a wonderful night. With love, Igor." Jealousy and scandal in the family, most likely, not be avoided.
If your abuser was a married man, podhodite the time when he will be with his wife or sweetheart, and start writing him messages of an intimate nature. This method has unconditional effects.
The most important thing that you should do - after some time hint the gossip that all the trouble happening in his life is a result of his love for spreading false and defamatory information about other people.
Advice 2: How to close mouth gossiper
To hear stories about themselves from strangers is always unpleasant. Gossip and gossip has always existed and will exist. Motives of their actions and of the reasons why alien life is becoming more interesting to your, you can reveal a lot. But better to just get the gossiper to shut up when he starts to "wash someone's bones." After all, if he speaks about someone behind his back, most likely, he's doing it behind your back too.
To give a solid response
The best solution to the problem is to put gossip into place, firmly marking out its position. If you became the witness of how someone began to discuss someone's life without the presence of discussed, you can soft or rough form to make it clear that gossip is a manifestation of human weakness. Most often, the gossips are the fact that in an open confrontation with them, no one enters, and it can be used. They object to nothing, because gossiping is really unworthy of self-respecting man.
You can use neutral phrases: "I don't want to talk about it", "I'm not interested", etc. you Can go stiffer if gossips don't understand the first time: "what do you have most of Masha/Petit/Claudia Ivanovna did not ask?", "Only behind my back to scratch much", etc.
If this happens in the workplace is likely this will have to face very often, so his position should be immediately and very clearly. Otherwise be drawn into a discussion of someone else's life will you.
To ignore what is happening
Another option how to deal with the problem of gossip, it is considered neglect. You can not pay attention to rumors, ostentatiously get up and leave when someone gets an unpleasant conversation, to include headphones and doesn't notice themselves or gossip, nor their violent activities. Someone knows how to do this tactfully without hurting the feelings of others, others think that, on the contrary, it is necessary to strongly emphasize the unacceptable behavior of gossip.
If the situation occurs at work, the best way of ignoring will work. No need to go and drink coffee with those who be sure to start a conversation about someone else or to inquire something from you. Better to do something to catch it in time and show that the work, first of all, you need to work. The one who really works, absolutely no time to chat with the gossip and focus on someone else's life.
To change the subject
A popular technique which can resist the spread of gossip, is considered a change of subject. So, hardly someone will begin its popular "A present...?", you can say: "Yes, it's still that, but about johnny Depp in the paper it says...". This, of course, will not stop the conversation, but it's better to let fans of the "wash up bones" discuss hardly familiar with them johnny Depp, what new Secretary of the boss or a sick employee.
In the office you can easily switch attention splenocolic at work. To translate the theme here is pretty easy too: "by the Way, guys, and report accurately last checked?" or "What happened to the holidays decided?". The options can be many, but, of course, gossip can not understand that so have you tried to quit their unpleasant conversation.