Instruction
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Gossip, rumors, intrigue, when faced foreheads best friends, exemplary spouse, personality and team... Gossip appear for different reasons - either there is a reason that violated public ethics-the moral standards or people just envy, as a bright personality, which provokes an unconscious irritation in people at least interesting and noticeable.
Succumbing to emotions, falling into traps set by cunning schemers, slandered, people fall under the wheels of the ruthless mechanisms of life. Split families and groups, down the years, created a career, and the fruits of many years of work to reap those who crossed through their own conscience and walked on other people's lives. How to recognize gossip and schemer?
Succumbing to emotions, falling into traps set by cunning schemers, slandered, people fall under the wheels of the ruthless mechanisms of life. Split families and groups, down the years, created a career, and the fruits of many years of work to reap those who crossed through their own conscience and walked on other people's lives. How to recognize gossip and schemer?
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Gossips love to pick to pieces behind. Listening to dubious rumors and discussions in a negative light representing other people, know that once you leave the room - and you will discuss the same. Gossips love to label it. not bothering to argument what they say.
There is gossip that gossip out of boredom and for fun. And there are those who are haunted by some evil intent, for their own selfish purposes, want to quarrel all against all, to turn people against each other, usually to obtain some benefit, for example, denigrate the other, to rise against this background, and maybe to occupy a high position either to steal someone else's husband or wife etc. That's the worst kind of gossip - schemers.
Negative characteristics without argument - the first characteristic of gossip. Sometimes gossip to distort the facts, interpretiruya them, attributing to a minor the circumstance of global negative meaning. Here you have to be doubly vigilant: you encounter a schemer.
Despite the fact that gossip, in General, is a pretty vile thing, gossips and schemers come with confidence to his demeanor, ostentatious indifference to your life, the willingness to help and to give advice in any situation. In a "situation" to understand. love it! Moreover, they have real talent to get into the soul and swarm there of the most good, according to them, motives.
There is gossip that gossip out of boredom and for fun. And there are those who are haunted by some evil intent, for their own selfish purposes, want to quarrel all against all, to turn people against each other, usually to obtain some benefit, for example, denigrate the other, to rise against this background, and maybe to occupy a high position either to steal someone else's husband or wife etc. That's the worst kind of gossip - schemers.
Negative characteristics without argument - the first characteristic of gossip. Sometimes gossip to distort the facts, interpretiruya them, attributing to a minor the circumstance of global negative meaning. Here you have to be doubly vigilant: you encounter a schemer.
Despite the fact that gossip, in General, is a pretty vile thing, gossips and schemers come with confidence to his demeanor, ostentatious indifference to your life, the willingness to help and to give advice in any situation. In a "situation" to understand. love it! Moreover, they have real talent to get into the soul and swarm there of the most good, according to them, motives.
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How to protect yourself from gossip and intrigue?
If you see that a person is prone to gossip, try less to be Frank with him.. And if your boyfriend or girlfriend - gossip, keep this in mind and don't give them too much information about themselves and about other people. Do not take part in the discussion of other people's eyes. Even if your words are quite harmless - they will berecovered, pervert, and give them a sense that you are invested. It is best to prevent any attempt at you to "wash up bones" to others. If you do not have the courage to say directly that you nasty gossip, refer to a lack of time, or that you are not interested. Ideally, try not to communicate with such people, and if there is a forced contact - don't say a word about the personal!
What to do if you are the victim of gossip and intrigue?
If you don't care what you people say, then silence is gold. Do not make excuses, does not prove the opposite! In any case, it will be just words, but the situation will still be ugly, and the surrounding no-no and think: no smoke without fire... So it is better to act immediately to find out who spread the rumors, hard to require the Whisperer to stop talking for the eyes, and the more effective it will be if the request to stop gossip is to be announced publicly by you - then your foe will be demoralized.
Even worse when the gossip is intriguing. For example, to slander you, "the second half", the head... In this case it makes sense to hold a "confrontation". Of course, if you are confident in their own infallibility.
If you see that a person is prone to gossip, try less to be Frank with him.. And if your boyfriend or girlfriend - gossip, keep this in mind and don't give them too much information about themselves and about other people. Do not take part in the discussion of other people's eyes. Even if your words are quite harmless - they will berecovered, pervert, and give them a sense that you are invested. It is best to prevent any attempt at you to "wash up bones" to others. If you do not have the courage to say directly that you nasty gossip, refer to a lack of time, or that you are not interested. Ideally, try not to communicate with such people, and if there is a forced contact - don't say a word about the personal!
What to do if you are the victim of gossip and intrigue?
If you don't care what you people say, then silence is gold. Do not make excuses, does not prove the opposite! In any case, it will be just words, but the situation will still be ugly, and the surrounding no-no and think: no smoke without fire... So it is better to act immediately to find out who spread the rumors, hard to require the Whisperer to stop talking for the eyes, and the more effective it will be if the request to stop gossip is to be announced publicly by you - then your foe will be demoralized.
Even worse when the gossip is intriguing. For example, to slander you, "the second half", the head... In this case it makes sense to hold a "confrontation". Of course, if you are confident in their own infallibility.
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The most reliable protection from gossip is, after all, to be careful in dealing with people of honesty and crystal. If you are not an angel in the flesh, but defiantly bright, or smart, or beautiful, or rich, or lucky in love, or just something very different from others - be prepared for the fact that you will be discussing for the eyes.
Don't be afraid to put the intriguing and envious at the place, with compelling arguments dispelling the gossip, like a bad dream. Gossips are afraid of strong and brave people, not afraid of the truth about yourself. They themselves can't stand when they bring to light. So the conflict in this situation is not terrible and even appropriate. In any case, you will save yourself from bad company.
Don't be afraid to put the intriguing and envious at the place, with compelling arguments dispelling the gossip, like a bad dream. Gossips are afraid of strong and brave people, not afraid of the truth about yourself. They themselves can't stand when they bring to light. So the conflict in this situation is not terrible and even appropriate. In any case, you will save yourself from bad company.
Note
The victim of gossip can become a person, even if he does not give cause for gossip. Usually the object of hot discussions for the eyes become bright, extraordinary people who are popular in their circle of friends or outside of this circle. On unimportant, not interesting person to talk is not as exciting as "favorite of fortune", about who is visible and clearly does not fit into the crowd. So do not worry! Gossip - a fee for the appeal in the eyes of others. Of whom came to gossip will not.
Useful advice
A few simple rules will help you if not to protect themselves from gossips and schemers, at least to reduce the harm from their destructive activities in your life to a minimum.
♦ Don't go with people who are prone to gossip. In General, it is not necessary to excessively enlarge the circle of their close contact with other people. The fewer people privy to your personal life the less soil for rumors and reasons for gossip.
♦ Don't be overly chatty, don't go for candid conversations with people you do not know.
♦ Gently share information about yourself, especially about other people.
♦ Try not to look secretive man, do not emphasize their isolation. This will cause even more curiosity and generate more rumors, speculation and gossip!
♦ Never make excuses! Never prove that gossip is gossip, and you - white and fluffy. Even in the sun there are spots. Hot and your excuses will only ignite the fire of curiosity and will add fuel to the fire.
♦ Refute rumors with facts. Thereby you will put liars in place. If, however, the words "I'm not like this/not this" or "honey it's not what you think" you have in your Arsenal no arguments - it is better to write gossip without comment.
♦ Do not speak for the eye what is not said in the eyes. This will save you from what your words will give another person in a warped form.
♦ If gossip offends you deeply, and does not cause a healthy irony and laugh - think about it. Maybe there is no smoke without fire, and you had the chance to correct their mistakes in dealing with other people? Maybe something to fix in yourself...
♦ Don't go with people who are prone to gossip. In General, it is not necessary to excessively enlarge the circle of their close contact with other people. The fewer people privy to your personal life the less soil for rumors and reasons for gossip.
♦ Don't be overly chatty, don't go for candid conversations with people you do not know.
♦ Gently share information about yourself, especially about other people.
♦ Try not to look secretive man, do not emphasize their isolation. This will cause even more curiosity and generate more rumors, speculation and gossip!
♦ Never make excuses! Never prove that gossip is gossip, and you - white and fluffy. Even in the sun there are spots. Hot and your excuses will only ignite the fire of curiosity and will add fuel to the fire.
♦ Refute rumors with facts. Thereby you will put liars in place. If, however, the words "I'm not like this/not this" or "honey it's not what you think" you have in your Arsenal no arguments - it is better to write gossip without comment.
♦ Do not speak for the eye what is not said in the eyes. This will save you from what your words will give another person in a warped form.
♦ If gossip offends you deeply, and does not cause a healthy irony and laugh - think about it. Maybe there is no smoke without fire, and you had the chance to correct their mistakes in dealing with other people? Maybe something to fix in yourself...