Instruction
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Gossip, rumors, intrigue, when faced foreheads best friends, exemplary spouse, personality and team... Gossip appear for different reasons - either there is a reason that violated public ethics-the moral standards or people just envy, as a bright personality, which provokes an unconscious irritation in people at least interesting and noticeable.
Succumbing to emotions, falling into traps set by cunning schemers, slandered, people fall under the wheels of the ruthless mechanisms of life. Split families and groups, down the years, created a career, and the fruits of many years of work to reap those who crossed through their own conscience and walked on other people's lives. How to recognize gossip and schemer?
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Gossips love to pick to pieces behind. Listening to dubious rumors and discussions in a negative light representing other people, know that once you leave the room - and you will discuss the same. Gossips love to label it. not bothering to argument what they say.
There is gossip that gossip out of boredom and for fun. And there are those who are haunted by some evil intent, for their own selfish purposes, want to quarrel all against all, to turn people against each other, usually to obtain some benefit, for example, denigrate the other, to rise against this background, and maybe to occupy a high position either to steal someone else's husband or wife etc. That's the worst kind of gossip - schemers.
Negative characteristics without argument - the first characteristic of gossip. Sometimes gossip to distort the facts, interpretiruya them, attributing to a minor the circumstance of global negative meaning. Here you have to be doubly vigilant: you encounter a schemer.
Despite the fact that gossip, in General, is a pretty vile thing, gossips and schemers come with confidence to his demeanor, ostentatious indifference to your life, the willingness to help and to give advice in any situation. In a "situation" to understand. love it! Moreover, they have real talent to get into the soul and swarm there of the most good, according to them, motives.
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How to protect yourself from gossip and intrigue?
If you see that a person is prone to gossip, try less to be Frank with him.. And if your boyfriend or girlfriend - gossip, keep this in mind and don't give them too much information about themselves and about other people. Do not take part in the discussion of other people's eyes. Even if your words are quite harmless - they will berecovered, pervert, and give them a sense that you are invested. It is best to prevent any attempt at you to "wash up bones" to others. If you do not have the courage to say directly that you nasty gossip, refer to a lack of time, or that you are not interested. Ideally, try not to communicate with such people, and if there is a forced contact - don't say a word about the personal!
What to do if you are the victim of gossip and intrigue?
If you don't care what you people say, then silence is gold. Do not make excuses, does not prove the opposite! In any case, it will be just words, but the situation will still be ugly, and the surrounding no-no and think: no smoke without fire... So it is better to act immediately to find out who spread the rumors, hard to require the Whisperer to stop talking for the eyes, and the more effective it will be if the request to stop gossip is to be announced publicly by you - then your foe will be demoralized.
Even worse when the gossip is intriguing. For example, to slander you, "the second half", the head... In this case it makes sense to hold a "confrontation". Of course, if you are confident in their own infallibility.

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The most reliable protection from gossip is, after all, to be careful in dealing with people of honesty and crystal. If you are not an angel in the flesh, but defiantly bright, or smart, or beautiful, or rich, or lucky in love, or just something very different from others - be prepared for the fact that you will be discussing for the eyes.
Don't be afraid to put the intriguing and envious at the place, with compelling arguments dispelling the gossip, like a bad dream. Gossips are afraid of strong and brave people, not afraid of the truth about yourself. They themselves can't stand when they bring to light. So the conflict in this situation is not terrible and even appropriate. In any case, you will save yourself from bad company.