You will need
  • In order to help yourself, that desire and great will power.
You need to cut the ties with the former spouse. Change your phone number, try not to communicate with his friends and colleagues. Ideally, it is better not to see, but if this is hard to achieve, try to limit communication.
Try not to visit places that evoke memories, and to communicate with people who strive to return you to the past.
Find new interests. Ask for help to friends and acquaintances. Try to take absolutely all the time. Go to an exhibition or in a cafe, do some embroidery or extreme sports.
You can go head first into work.
However, leave some time for self-care. Don't forget that you are a woman and should look the part. From negative thoughts will help to get rid of shopping or the gym.
Get a haircut or image. This will help you to tune in to a new period in your life.
If you can not escape, is to admit to yourself that you need to consult a specialist. You may visit the training or therapy. Most importantly, do not self-medicate. Antidepressants and sleeping pills can only aggravate the situation. If you want to relax, then take a course of massage or take a relaxing bath.
If you are too embarrassed to go out, then ask for help on the forum or call in an anonymous counseling.
Make a journal or start to write poetry. This will help to release all your feelings.
In any case, do not engage in soul-searching, but don't blame only your former spouse. Remember that often in parting both sides are to blame.
You don't have to go back to negative experiences, analyze their mistakes and release the situation. If you catch yourself thinking about ex-husband, try to occupy yourself with something that will allow you to relax and tune in to positive emotions.