Advice 1: What is engagement

Engagement is a beautiful ancient tradition, partially preserved until today. Offer of marriage, meeting the parents, the festive meal - a common scenario of engagement day today.
What is engagement

The rite of betrothal in the history of

In Russia the engagement was called Rockbiter, collusion, predvajanjem. The term "engaged" means to agree, to collude. The Bible engagement called a betrothal. This ancient ritual is rooted in the old Testament and means a preliminary agreement between the lovers and their parents about the upcoming wedding.
From the day of engagement, a man and a woman is called the bride and groom.

On this day, the guy gave his girlfriend a ring and proposed to marry. If she returned the gift back to the owner, it means that there is a negative response, if accepted, the young went to her parents to ask for their blessing. The fathers of a boy and a girl commit ritual rumbita, and after him to terminate the agreement only by paying a large sum taxed for causing family humiliation and shame.

An engagement ring is a symbol of serious intentions of the groom. According to Russian customs, it is worn on the ring finger of the right hand together with the wedding and wedding.

Rich layers of the population arranged betrothal a big reception with dancing, many foods. In the midst of the feast the bridegroom did offer and recognize the response of his beloved.

Engagement today

In today's life the rite of betrothal respect is not all couples. And the views on it there are at least two. Some consider engagement to the date of application to the Registrar. And then there is notification of friends and acquaintances. Relatives are usually informed in advance about the upcoming event.

In the second case, the betrothal is called the day when the guy proposing to the girl, and with her consent, the couple informs the family about his intention to get married. If their parents do not have time to meet, then at the party have the option of sharing the feast. The reception on the occasion suits traditionally the bride's family.

Since the announcement of the engagement until the day of the wedding ceremony usually takes from 3 months to half a year. It happens that the term reduce, but to increase it is undesirable. It is believed that one of the lovers may change their mind to do such a serious step is to enter into a formal marriage.
Currently the engagement to break much easier than in the past. No obligation except a moral, it is not intended.

During the time from engagement to wedding day, the relatives of the couples to discuss organizational and financial issues, carry out preparatory activities, invite guests. Many wealthy and famous people make announcements about the engagement in the media – on television, in the Newspapers.

Advice 2 : What is engagement and betrothal

Few people remember that in Russia the marriage was preceded by three traditional secular ceremony: the courtship, engagement and marriage. Today the last two have merged into a single event, which often seems ridiculous and inappropriate.
What is engagement and betrothal
In Russia the rites of engagement and betrothal were inseparable from each other, they were a direct result of successful matchmaking. Now they are often confused.


Before matchmaking will be mandatory, and played an important role in the lives of young people. The groom, accompanied by relatives came to the house of the beloved, where we met with the parents of the future wife and asked permission to marry their daughter. The role of the groom was mediocre, all the work was done by the matchmakers, who praised the "merchant" and offered the bride price. Matchmaking was very important, because the matchmakers had to obtain from the bride's parents permission to marry given them a young man.

Today the rite is rooted in the past. In the big cities to Woo not already taken. Most often the meet the parents is secular, if not accidentally, and their opinions on the future of marriage will not affect the choice of the bride and groom. So, in essence, eliminated the need to ask permission for the marriage. However, in some of the villages still perform the ceremony, thereby preserving national traditions and expressing respect for elders.


The name of this ritual comes from the word "utter", i.e. "to say, tell". As soon as they had the consent of parents to marriage, the decision was made to tell almost the whole village. Relatives and friends of the groom gathered in his house, where he said that the matchmaking was a success.

Another part of engagement is an agreement, a Pact between the parents of the spouses on the wedding, where, on what terms.

Current understanding of the engagement's a bit garbled. Many believe that this Western tradition, and therefore refuse it. Someone believes that engagement is the presentation of the ring to the future bride, but it is a betrothal.


After performed the rituals of courtship and engagement, the betrothal was done. It is the exchange of rings and is considered the beginning of the preparations for the wedding. The bride sat at the sewing of the dowry, and the groom was busy preparing the house and provisions for the beginning of life and the family.

In the modern sound betrothal looks like a solemn presentation of the ring to the bride. The girl, accepting it, agrees to marry this man to marry, i.e. modern engagement incorporates elements of courtship, only consent to the marriage do not give parents, but the bride herself.
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