In such situations, the husband may ask questions about what he did wrong, why his wife loved another guy, if I were to save the family. Misunderstanding and resentment towards his wife, understandable feelings. In order to get out of this situation, you need to understand the situation and their own feelings.

Talk to your wife

It is not necessary to get away from problems and pretend that nothing happened. At the same time, rolling his wife scandal because of her feelings for the other man also out. Better to calmly discuss the situation together.

Of course, to deal with emotions and tune in to constructive conversation in this case is very difficult. But understand that your wife is not a thing and not a robot. The fact that she loved another, could happen totally against her will. Respect her choice and appreciate the fact that she found the courage to be honest and decent towards you. Your woman opened all the cards and not beginning to lead a double life, tricking you. At least for that it can thank.

Be patient and listen to the position of his wife. Maybe her story will help you make useful conclusions and adjust their own behavior in the future. Perhaps your spouse say that your marriage was wrong or how your behavior pushed her away.
Of course, it would be better to discuss problems at the time, but take this situation for granted, and remove from it at least some benefit.

Check out the feelings

Maybe the situation have not gone away, and your spouse is deceived in his feelings. If you don't want to lose her, try to save your marriage. Pay more attention to your wife, give her flowers. Invite your spouse in a restaurant or theater, organize a trip to the country in which she had long wanted to visit.

Perhaps this is not the end of your love, and of a crisis. How well you will cope with this challenge largely depends on your sensitivity and patience. Make excitement and variety in your love life, give compliments and gifts, make surprises for my wife.
Show your wife that you need it. Prove that you love her and try to awaken her feelings.

Release spouse

If your efforts have not led to result, can only let go of his wife. Understand that your relationship has changed forever. By force you will not keep the woman he loves. Don't blame her for what happened and don't beat yourself up over her leaving.

From what you break up is not civilized, and scandal, no one will win. It is unlikely you will be friends in the future, but to save any human relationship worth it.