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Rare family manage to live without any misunderstandings and quarrels. But when insults and humiliation by men are the main component of a relationship is a sure sign that the family was dominated by a male tyrant.

Why women live with tyrants?

Women can live with men who regularly humiliated them, insulted and even beaten. It does not take any steps to end the relationship. In some cases, the reason lies in the so-called "psychology of victimhood". Such people like to feel like martyrs, feeling sorry for myself. Men-tyrants often compound feelings of guilt. A favorite excuse for sadists – "You reduced me to this". Receiving a stern reprimand for every speck of dust on the dresser or badly ironed shirt, the woman starts to think that she is bad and unworthy of another man.

Often women justify their passive behavior to that with her husband-a tyrant they live for the children. What a father is always better than the lack of men in the family. It is a dangerous delusion. The boy, seeing the mother, who again and again forgives humiliation and beatings, will take the demeanor of the father to their future relationship. In fact you can grow a future tyrant who will have to suffer another woman. You not only cripple the psyche of children, but also threaten their life and health.

Often women keep next to the tyrants of material dependence. Here you need to clearly understand what is important to you. The dignity and freedom of choice or life in fear, but without financial difficulties. Man is a despot forbids the woman to work to further enslave its victim.

How to break off relations with a tyrant?

The first step is the realization that you're missing the opportunity to become truly happy, spending years living with a tyrant. Think about the fact that there is a man who will appreciate and respect you. To raise self-esteem and restore faith in yourself will help friends and family. There are crisis centers for women in difficult life situations. Chat on Internet forums with other victims of domestic violence. They can give advice based on my experience.

As strange as it may sound, but in men-the tyranny inherent tendency to monogamy. So just let go of your woman, they will not. To leave need. Write a statement to the police, file for divorce and division of property. Find defenders among friends or the police if you are afraid of revenge.

Even after retiring from her man, a tyrant, a woman can experience subconscious guilt for having abandoned him. Especially if the man has alcohol or drug addiction. He will beg to come back, promise never to raise your hand and swear that everything will be new. Do not succumb to provocations. Habits such men do not change. Contact your therapist who will help to get rid of feelings of guilt and psychological dependence.