What if your gay son

There are different views on homosexuality - both among scientists and ordinary people. Some believe it is a deviation from the norm, and even disease, others only a manifestation of personal characteristics of a person. Many who learned that their relative is gay, have to form their own opinion.

When a teenager declares that he is gay

First of all, you need to understand whether parents understood their son. If the young person is still young and has not in the obvious reasons, sufficient experience, perhaps simply unsure, and it may be true that it was intended to shock parents. At the age of 13-15 years, the psyche is formed, and a teenager is sometimes not in forces independently to understand their desires and thoughts. Especially important in this period for parents is the preservation of psychological comfort in the family that the child with any questions and problems you could refer to older family members.

Parents who can't find the strength to properly perceive and safely respond to the fact that their son is gay, you can ask for help from a psychologist, who will help to cope with emotions and to think constructively.

So you should try to calmly react to the news. Otherwise, the next time the child is simply not going to tell the parents about any changes in your life because of fear that cause an inappropriate response. Instead of lecturing, trying to "brainwash" the son, it is better to try to question him - why he thinks he became gay. Does he have experience or just interested, as well as to understand what can cause such interest. Often at a young age Teens can intentionally or spontaneously to shock such statements, although in reality they are quite far from being able to change traditional sexual orientation.

If during the conversation with his son reveals that he only wants to be gay, and the parents are categorically against, you can try a few options. In such cases, it may be very useful a psychologist, a specialist you can go separately or together with my son. No one can guarantee that the "cure of homosexuality", but a psychologist can help Teens understand themselves, to solve the existing psychological problems or to feel "painful" places in the subconscious. And then the child who has recently announced that he is gay, you may realize that it is not.

To try to understand and accept

In the case when about his homosexual reports people older, already existing life, parents can be even harder to accept it - after all, many rather than just telling, for example, about their children at work, to say: "My son is gay". However, we should try to first focus on the fact that the son himself came and told me about it. So he doesn't want to hide this fact from the parents, hoping for their understanding. Parents, it is possible to ask for some time to make this information - perhaps, for some it can be quite stressful. Particularly acute can respond to those parents who were hoping soon to get grandchildren.

You can try to visualize different scenarios - from very unpleasant to quite prosperous. Selecting the most desirable possible outcome, you should strive to make it a reality.

A special situation exists when parents learned that their son was gay, from strangers. Or, for example, saw it in environment and circumstances, which can only be interpreted one way. And in this case it is necessary to wait for the first impression, and maybe anger and frustration, or stress caused by feelings subside. Then we should try to speak frankly with his son about how his choice is deliberate, and how he sees his future life.