Advice 1: How to respond if you called them

They say that words can kill. Especially if it came from the lips of a loved one or friend. Probably the most natural reaction is to reply, "reciprocity", to tell the offender something poignant and bring him to tears. However, the scandal is hardly a way out. Need to find other ways.
How to respond if you called them
Instruction
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Protection – a normal human reaction. You are insulted, then you have made a psychological attack. And dearer than the abuser, the harder you blow. Why is this happening? Because the person who knows all your ins and outs to be well informed about the weak areas:
- are you dissatisfied with your figure and does he know this; he's in a fit of anger said something like "watch your weight", it is clear that in a rude form;

- or you like to sit at home, doing housework, scrub floors, cook pies and respectively, get a "home chicken". In the worst case of "domestic hen, which is necessary to watch my weight".
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From this we can conclude that no need to keep too close, will not hurt. But it is a wrong conclusion. Rather, it is necessary to think about the fact that the person I wanted to tell you actually and why you reacted like that. Realizing that behind the insults, you will learn how to answer them.
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If you called them, the first thing I wanted to draw your attention to a problem. They say, Hey, listen to me! Perhaps you are not careful - your abuser problems at work, a midlife crisis, a stomach ache? Your answer: the most correct way to find out what happened.
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If the insult has hurt you deeply, then you believe that the abuser told the truth or was close to the truth. Returning to the example of "chicken": you feel fat, unkempt, and nobody cares. What to do? To change!
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If you have reacted to innocuous words or, in General, tend to "free interpretation", then you lack love and tenderness. Now you attract the attention of the inappropriate behavior and receive if not participating, then at least the scandal, which is still better than nothing. Way - to build a new relationship with this person, and if you do not get to leave. On the insults of a happy life is not built.
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Conclusion: the name-calling is only a consequence. Look for the cause and work on it. If you heard the words seem to be offensive only to you, most likely, your relationship has reached a crisis. And remember, it's nothing personal – everyone just solves their problem!

Advice 2: What to do if you call

Sometimes a person in childhood, in adolescence and even in adult years may become an object of ridicule or attack. If for one reason or another has excessive weight – be sure it will not pass unnoticed by the badly educated "wits", and the poor begin to call or "lard ass", or in other less insulting nickname. In any group, even among the mass of very normal people, there are always not the most intelligent person, who takes pleasure in mocking others, sometimes bringing them to tears. What to do in this situation?
What to do if you call
As, for example, to enroll the student, whose name-calling, cruel teasing peers? Of course, you can try to defend their dignity by force. And in some cases it is really the only way, alas, there are people who do not understand another language. But first, the offender may be physically stronger. Second, there may be several. Thirdly, it may not be the offender, and the offender. Not to beat the girl (though frankly despicable)! Generally take physical strength is only in extreme cases.

First of all, the child and his parents should clearly understand that the painful reaction by offensive nicknames (anger and the more tears) - it's a real gift to those who tease. And the stronger the child will be to show that it hurt the offensive nicknames so much eagerness and diligence they will continue their "dirty work." Unfortunately, there are people from this will not go away. As a rule, they "eat" through the tears of other people, it adds them some kind of superiority (of course, according to them).

So, as difficult as it may be, should try to control myself. The best response to all the efforts of the offenders – contemptuous indifference. Very soon they get tired in vain to rend the air", and they move on, switching to search another "victim".

If it is impossible to tolerate their antics – you can try to "beat the enemy with their own weapons." The abuser (or abusers) probably have their "weaknesses". We only need to look closely and carefully to detect them. The one who used to scoff at others, usually not expecting that he may be the object of ridicule, and very sharp and pungent. The stronger the shock "wit", when call will start them.

Well, if nothing helps, then you should transfer the child to another school.
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