Advice 1: How not to allow themselves to be manipulated

People-manipulators are very common. And those who depend on them suffer greatly from such treatment. And to manipulate a person at work and in his own family. Psychologists have developed a number of recommendations as to how to stop over a mock.
How not to allow themselves to be manipulated
If you are trying to manipulate through compliments, be very careful. From nice words to unwind, to lose vigilance and to once again accept that for you it is unpleasant and unacceptable. So, after hearing the flattering words, try not to blush and not be embarrassed. Just accept the compliment with dignity. After all, you value yourself! Can fix the result, telling the opponent the same nice words. So he will understand that it is not too sincere compliments from you will not achieve anything.
In the case when you put before a choice, covering the main request preliminary story, do not rush immediately to answer. Manipulators like to put pressure on the pity, so you run the risk of impulsive to accept the fact that you are uncomfortable. Don't hesitate to ask for time to think. Left alone, think carefully about what you ask for, weigh their capabilities and desires. And then decide, will you help or not. Don't be afraid to refuse if it's inconvenient for you.
When the manipulator is trying to "crush" the intelligence shows that he is more educated, wiser and more intelligent you - do not get fooled. Often under such feigned intelligence hides a fairly "empty" person who has no special knowledge, but uses only a specific set of billets. Answer him the same. Learn a few important dates, historical figures and events. In conversation with this type of manipulator apply your knowledge. He, not expecting this from you resistance, get confused and their attempts to manipulate you will cease.
If you apply the technique of increasing aggression, do not give in. Psychologists recommend not to engage in calming an angry opponent. Just ignore the full. And the manipulation will end as quickly as it had begun. This is due to the fact that if there is no reaction, then there is no meaning to be sprayed.
In this case, you can go the opposite. Make sure to tap the raging interlocutor's hand touch his shoulder or hand. At the same time they themselves start to build up an aggressive tone and manner of communication in relation to the interlocutor. The suddenness of the attempt to manipulate you immediately stop.
Sometimes the manipulation is hidden behind the too rapid pace of speech and talkativeness. In this case, do not try to stop the flow of words that you poured. Just say only one sentence: "I'm Sorry (-te), I need to call". And turn away to the phone. This pause will help to lose your companion with the pace and lose the advantage over you. Plus, you'll be able to figure out how to end a conversation.
To distinguish sincere compliments from players too easily. To do this, please note on submission form. If suddenly you become for man the (-Oh) best (s), without you things are not going well, etc., so your blatant attempt to manipulate.
Useful advice
If you feel that the person is trying to manipulate you right now, pause. 5-6 seconds would be sufficient. During this time, the psychologists, your brain has time to adapt to the given circumstances and will give you the answer whether you should execute such order or request or not.

Of course, you need to learn to love and respect themselves. And then any attempts to manipulate you will be fruitless.

Advice 2: How to manipulate people

American philosophy has long recognized the fact that the person developed the most, it's greed and lust for power. But it's not so bad, of course, within reasonable limits. What one person wants to subjugate the other, for example, in conversation, there is nothing wrong. To manipulate the interlocutor, to conduct your General conversation in that direction, which is convenient to you, or even make it so that people began to listen to you. All this is possible if you know some techniques in psychology.
How to manipulate people
You will need
  • In order to understand how to use psychology in their own interest, take the following:
  • Absolutely everyone has any dissatisfaction, or in other words, weakness.
  • Weaknesses are different, most often it is: the need to respect, flattery, love, and recognition (social), physiological (sleep, food, sex), in the self, in material wealth, security, etc.
  • This is the basis before you apply any psychological technique with the aim to lead the conversation in the desired direction, or to induce the person to any action, is to understand what the problem or the weakness of man. Next, you should based on the acquired knowledge, to act, as if giving what he lacks. Now we consider the basic techniques:
The surest way to establish trust relation in the conversation, it is a "mirror" of the source.
Do not hesitate to copy facial expressions, gait, hand gestures, tone of voice, rate of speech etc. But do not fall, do everything naturally, just as it does your partner, no need to follow every gesture of the interlocutor, feel his condition, zero under this condition and, only then, can "lead" his companion. Under the "conduct" refers to the fact that you can guide the conversation wherever you need and can even introduce your interlocutor in state you want, be it anger, fear, sympathy, or enthusiasm. After your partner felt that you the same as himself, then its subsequent behavior and mood will depend directly on your.
This technique is well have small children. The purpose of this reception is to encourage others to want to do for you what you need. To evoke pity in most cases is not difficult. The main disadvantage of this technique is that you can misunderstand, or not even pay attention.
"Three Yes."
The reception is quite simple. Ask the interviewee 3 formal questions that he answers: "Yes", and then ask the question, the answer you want to hear, too "Yes," and your interlocutor of inertia will be more inclined to a positive answer than negative.
1) is This the personnel Department?
2) You Tatiana?
3) I talked to on the phone?
Can you give me 10 minutes right now?
A choice without a choice.
The purpose of this technique is to put the question so when you answer the man thought that he had a choice and he responded as she wanted, and in fact his answer is only part.
For example:
-I would like to continue our communication. What part of day you have tomorrow is less busy?
Okay. I'll call you after lunch.(Or: "Okay. So let's meet at 16:30....")
Not every occasion, but no less effective.
The purpose of this technique is to make the interviewee decided that you completely agree to his words and no I have no objection. You fully agree with all that the interlocutor speaks, nod throughout the conversation, "assent," and in that moment, when your communication will become easy and friendly, you add the fact that you can still do that and that, and gradually lead to the conditions that you are comfortable.
The main objective - gradually and slowly.
We ' ve all heard the phrase: "don't promise more than you can do." But if we are talking about, to interest to the conversation of the person from whom we need something in the next 30 minutes or longer (depends on what you promise), then perhaps this technique is what you need. Promise to be more interesting interlocutor or a promise to achieve some individual goals. The main thing - do not overdo it.
It's very simple.
Every speaker inspires, and if you say the same thing often, your words sound like a prophecy.
Fear and blackmail.
Not very ethical, but but about its effectiveness, hardly anyone will dare to argue.
"Fear is the best motivation." This statement is true, but not for all. This is a rather extreme technique. We are not talking about the threat, the idea is to encourage the person to do something, as a result of fear of something, be it the Bible, the monster under the bed, the parent, and much more. Fears each person fully.
Example: "-don't go out tonight because my mom will swear"
Useful advice
Do not resort to these methods unless absolutely necessary. Be open to people and surround yourself with people, a number which will not have to use such techniques.
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