Of course, the easiest way to respond to an offer hands and hearts - the standard "Yes" or "no". However, in the first case it will be fairly trivial, and the second shame. But if you want to avoid long explanations and justifications, then this is your option.
If the gentleman you do not like, and with it you are not satisfied and relationships, in language not to be ashamed. All depends on your upbringing. But before you decide to part this way with this man, think again. After this, you're unlikely going to meet and communicate normally.
If the young person you are indifferent but want to maintain friendly relations with him, you need to answer very carefully. One option is to translate the sentence into a joke. But in any case it is not necessary to disparage the man. Just connect your sense of humor. For example, tell him that the more courteous you could not received, so you need to consider, how gallant of you to answer it. So you will win time to come up with a decent answer, and knight its not going to hurt.
Try to refer to external circumstances. Tell me that it is still not ready, you have school, work, vacation only a year (underline). This will help you to delay returning to this issue for a sufficiently long period.
If you still want to respond to the proposal to marry the coveted consent, you still should not hurry. Tell me what you want to think - it just goes to stimulate the interest of men to you. After all, if you don't answer immediately, so not sure of her feelings. And this is a new reason to win you over completely. Wait a day or two and then give your positive response.
You can respond to a marriage proposal quite florid. However, to do so only if you are sure that your partner will appreciate such experiments. For example, you can buy the puzzle and answer the man by a kind of allegory. It may sound like this: "Beloved, I hope our family life will be so much happy days, how many pieces in this puzzle".
Responding to a proposal of marriage, don't try to make it too original. It is unknown how strong the psyche of your choice. Accordingly, to predict his reaction will be difficult. This means that you simplify your answer to a maximum and not torture the man a long wait and full of the unknown.
Advice 2: How to answer a joke
Joke can lighten the mood, relieve nervous tension. Remember, as friends joked before the exam, and you felt slightly better. Sometimes the jokes cause a backlash. Instead of a sense of humor irritation and anger at him. In such cases we say that the joke was out of place. The source in the answer is indignant that someone doesn't understand jokes. The correct response to a joke always leads to peaceful relations.
Smile. If the joke fell like you, this answer would be sufficient. If the joke you didn't like it, especially the smile. Your smile can be quite brief. But the source is convinced that you "understood" his intention to make a joke. If you will not blame him, he can be sensitive and watch you why the joke did not amuse you as well as him. He, too, can say nothing, but to make a conclusion for myself, that so to joke with you not to be.Some jokers from the 1st time you do not understand the inappropriateness of jokes. Be patient and conduct an experiment with a smile" a few times. Please, be patient. And immediately go about your business. Man enough will know that you are not participate in his elation. In the future he will choose someone else to be jokes. And you will say that you can't take a joke. But you will remain a good relationship.
Think about where you can apply this joke. If it seems appropriate in some situation, immediately tell the source. You praise him for his sharp mind and quick wit. People will be very happy that you want to apply his work. When I joke this way with other people, don't forget to tell about their reactions to the author jokes. This will panic him.
Praise, make a comment and again praise. If the joke hurts you hurt, do not rush to "explode". Immediately leave the room. Calm down, drink some water. Do not leave the interlocutor for a long time, come back to it. Praise him for his intention to make a joke. Then note that the joke may be good, but not for you or not in this situation. And again praise. Your praise will save a person from having to be angry and make excuses. This behavior will be the best response to a bad joke.
Post a good joke on the Internet and give a link to your interlocutor. He will be glad that you did. Especially if you hint in the message who it was joking and how you reacted. This step is another way the answer to the joke.
Some people are kidding and just trying to be funny. They do it clumsily, from lack of communication. They want someone to talk to. Not to alienate such people with awkward silence in response to a joke. Be ironic to yourself, laugh at what you today, absolutely no sense of humor. Appropriate tact on your part will support a person.
Sometimes you may feel that all around are cute. Joke, joke mutually, and you head does not come. Remember that there is a universal response to a joke, a genuine laugh. Learn to laugh, then my friends like to joke with you.
Advice 3: At what age can you marry
More from Soviet times in our country there is a stereotype that the girl just needs to have time to get married before a certain age. And, often it is limited to 18-20 years. Recent views on marriage have changed somewhat, but the girls are still worried about "leaving" and because of this sometimes make rash decisions.
Marriage age in Russia and modern Russia
In Russia, girls were married off very early. In the 13th century was created the "helmsman book" - a set of Church rules that regulated familial relations. It was the marriageable age for girls is 13 years and for boys is 15 years. However, there have been many instances of earlier marriages. The Church tried to fight this phenomenon. Released in the mid-16th century "Stoglav" allowed priests to marry girls age 12 years, boys – still 15 years.
The reasons for such early marriages often were of a purely practical nature. For example, the bride's parents was difficult to feed many children, and they quickly sought to "attach" at least one of them. And the groom's family does not have enough manpower, and his parents gladly took in the "house worker". Of course, any mutual love there could be no question, and the marriage relationship in a young family often began only a few years after the wedding.
Now the Russian legislation sets the age for marriage age of 18. However, if there are special circumstances, a marriage license will be ready in 14-15 years. The laws of certain subjects of the Russian Federation specifies that "special circumstances" are the later stages of pregnancy, presence of pregnancy (≥22 weeks), the interruption of which it is impossible for medical reasons or because of the desire of both parties to keep it. Permission for the marriage of persons under 16 years of age, usually prepared by resolution of administration of region, Krai or Republic.
Factors influencing marriage
However, such early marriage, today, is still quite rare. According to statistics, most girls trying to get married at 18-25 years. To some extent it depends on physiology, since in this period there is complete puberty. Other decisive factors may be the desire for motherhood, the fear of loneliness or social stereotypes.
However, it is best if the main factor will be mutual love. After all, you can't want to get married in the abstract, at least, a lady needs a loving and reliable man. But it unlikely to meet "on request". In any case, you should not get married when there is no confidence in the chosen one. Stubborn though statistics still says that after 30 years the opportunity to get married is 7%, the problem in each case remains an individual. It happens that the girl meets his fate in 16-17 years, and happens and so that women gain the family fortune in 30, 40 and even 50 years.