You will need
- Confidence, the desire to change your life, serious attitude
In detail imagine my life without this guy. If you do have no value, do not postpone important point, strongly explaining his hesitancy ("I'm Not going to ruin his weekend", "I will Say after the holidays" etc.). The sooner this ends the better for both of you.
Be prepared for a negative reaction on the part of the guy and your friends. Also keep in mind that you too will be hurt, - at least because you're used to this person.
Prep guy: let your phone conversations and messages will become shorter and drier, meet less frequently and "fast" decrease the number of hugs and kisses... If you live with the guy - do not start fights, calm and detached live their separate lives.
During conversation clearly tell that it was over. There are several variants of development of events. If a guy is happy is, despite the fact that it is unpleasant, smile and say, "I'm glad at least that our opinions are the same".
If he threatens to commit suicide, let, to them that are not responsible for his life and his threats do not apply to you.
If the guy does not react to your words - we'll finish talking and leave him alone; enough with the excuses.
If he blames only you, do not engage him in an argument, you say that you understand his feelings. If he asks perplexedly: "what did I do?" and "What to do?" don't try to philosophize in response, show that you too are worried and don't know why it happened.
When you do, we should not justify ourselves, nor to blame him
You can try to be friends. But this will happen only when you will not feel sorry for the guy ("How can he be unhappy without me live?").
Advice 2 : What to write to the man at parting
Parting is always painful and sad, therefore, to somehow alleviate their condition, you can try to Express your feelings in a letter to a former lover.
Where to write ex after a breakup
If you decided to write about his feelings to a former young person, you should not use a mobile phone. A text message is likely to remain unanswered, and you will not be able to convey all your thoughts and feelings.
It would be very romantic to use for writing the old way: write it on a sheet of paper by hand. Recently, however, young boys and girls for correspondence try to use email or social network.
What to write to the former
To you feel better you should write your ex sincere letter in which to invest all his soul.
Start writing from the moment you met. Tell me that you still remember the first time I saw him that word for word you remember your first conversation. How beautiful and interesting it seemed to you sometime. Put the word out that when you are all began, you were hoping for something that met the true love that will last a lifetime.
Remind him about how you loved to dream together. Surely in your plans included a family, children and cozy little house. Perhaps you have always wanted to go together on a journey, but all of your dreams and were not implemented.
Try to speculate why it happened, why a seemingly perfect relationship led to this outcome. Analyze your behaviour, find the errors in it and think of you together would be able to solve it and fix it.
One should not blame the young man. Make smarter and take much of the blame on yourself. Tell me that only now I understand that somewhere did not behave properly, it might be, often jealous, gave little attention to themselves or a loved one provoked to jealousy. He needs to understand that you have begun to understand and willing to change for the better.
Thank a former lover for the time that you spent together. Tell me that you were very good with him, which is hardly ever someone to love as much as him, but hope that in his life he will meet a person to which he would be treated better than you, which is more loving, more appreciative. You need to let him know that you still have feelings for him, but you with a clear conscience, release him, and will no longer make any attempts and steps forward. Let him be happy, but only without you.