Advice 1: How to behave correctly, not to engage in the conflict?

None of us like to quarrel with family and loved ones. But there are times when avoiding conflict is very difficult. So how can you avoid such a situation and to resolve the quarrel?
How to behave correctly, not to engage in the conflict?


Initially, if you have any desire to respond to his angry opponent, as you can breathe deeply and count to 10. It is this period of time lasts for overcoming emotion. After this you will not have the desire to say anything unless you mean it. Especially after this go to the world will be much more difficult than to quarrel. Remember a simple rule: walk away from conflict is much easier than trying to solve it.


In the case where you deliberately trying to provoke a conflict, the best option is, if you abstract and ignore the bully. Such people tend to feed of the energy of others. In psychology they are called "energy vampires". In order to feel good, they provoke other people to conflict and feed on their negative energy, but if they don't get what you want – the conflict will end faster than you imagine. Turn on the music player and put on your headphones, close your eyes and imagine that you are in some beautiful place and not pay attention to such a person.


For a speedy end to the conflict try to bring the attention from himself to something else. Often the instigator of the conflict makes the opponent the main object of attention: shouts at him, blames, only what is possible, etc. But once you change it the main object of attention – the conflict has run its course. Ask, why is he so Jumpy today, maybe something happened or he didn't get enough sleep? As soon as he realizes that now, not you, and he is the object of attention, will immediately cease to attack you.

To be unpredictable is one of the surest methods for conflict resolution. During the conflict both parties expect from each other mutual antagonism. Under this scenario, the dispute is much better. But as soon as someone will step away from his role, lost the whole point of the conflict. Respond with a kind word for evil. Smile, if you are rude. If you behave in unpredictable conflict situations, the provocateur will be discouraged.

According to psychologists, conflicts instigate insecure and insecure people. Such behavior, they try to hide it. Be merciful to such people and stay away from them.

Advice 2: How to respond if you are rude

The rudeness of others found at every step. Frustration, anger, self-doubt can make some people rude, raise your voice, attack verbally. It is important not to bring the conflict to the scandal, while defending their point of view.
How to respond if you are rude
Very often encountered rudeness in the service sector. Sellers in stores, cashiers, managers, administrators do not like claims, often just, to your address. If your question or request someone began to be rude in response, just ask to call the Manager or Director. Usually this is enough to temper the zeal of the opponent. If the source does not calm down, write a claim. For a start, in the book of complaints, which must be in every institution that serves the citizens. You are required to write a response and indicate what action was taken against the offender. If this happens call or write to the CPS. It is their task - to deal with unfair services.
If rude head, you will have to put him in his place. Safely say that in that tone to speak you do not intend to. Recall that both of you are in the service, where expressing emotions is just not professional. If it didn't work, and to tolerate rudeness you will have to change their place of work. Meet the leaders that dealing with subordinates is the norm. And change his character is not in your power, it is easier to find a new CEO.
The most difficult thing when Hamish loved ones. Mostly it affects teenagers. Puberty and the hormonal explosion is often extremely negative impact on the character. In response to the swearing is not necessary to raise your voice. Calmly ask them to sit down and talk. Find kind words to the child opened up and trusted you. Ask what happened and what he is not happy. After ascertaining the cause of irritation, it is easier to find a way out of the conflict. But in any case do not force the teenager. It may close and cease to put you in my life. Then find the path to reconciliation would be virtually impossible.
Not to get involved in the conflict, react to rudeness outside the box. For example, sexmates. It will bring the opponent into a stupor, and you happily go on your way.
Useful advice
Before you answer boor, count up to ten. During this time, the head will need arguments, and the emotions subside a little.
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