Many people complain that they can't gather the nerves in a box, to hold back, to keep balance and not to inflame the looming conflict, to get rid of feelings of nervousness and anxiety, or "recover" after emotional shock, stress. The circumstances that provoke emotion, life is more than enough: exams, interviews for employment, conclusion of important transactions, clarify the relationship with the boss or a loved one... but you never know the things in life that can bring us out of balance. Unbalanced person might explode and say the wrong thing, cry, make inappropriate act, which then comes to regret - and thereby spoil not only the impression about yourself, but it may close some opportunities.
There are two ways to overcome emotional crises. The first is to restrain the emotions, not the best, as suppressing emotions in themselves, we risk to accumulate within a critical mass of negativity, and there is a real emotional explosion. The second is to learn to control himself and to dominate their emotions. This way more productive.
Take care of yourself
It is important to understand the impact of emotional breakdown. One person breaks down on the aggression, the second one suddenly starts to cry, the third - lost for words. You should carefully examine your own reactions and to construct the situation in such a way to protect themselves in the eyes of others. So, feeling emotions begin to spiral out of control, make sure that the consequences of emotional outburst did not affect your career, don't ruin your public speech, I introduced you to a sense of shame or embarrassment in front of witnesses your weaknesses.
Cope with fatigue
Emotional control is weakened when a person is tired. Should not accumulate fatigue, to deal with it. Allow yourself to relax, regroup, treat yourself to something nice. Camping, party with trusted friends or a shopping trip for a pleasant shopping will help switch the energy on positive things and reduce the risk of emotional distress with negative consequences. Helps physical work, just don't forget that physical activity should be fun. During a break or vacation get the strengthening of the nervous system. For this, you may need to practice meditation, yoga, and sports exercises. Will not interfere with walks, during which you can, for example, collecting rocks or taking pictures. Don't forget that creativity heals. Remember neglected hobby, read a book that is long delayed you for reading. Sit by the water, free from obsessive thoughts, listen to the birds singing or just watch the fish in the aquarium.
If you feel that you attracted the stress, stop, take a comfortable position, relax, breathe deeply and slowly breathe in, try to get rid of haste. No need to be afraid to be late - remember that your peace of mind - the key to efficiency in any job. Analyze your own emotions: try to understand what knocks you off track, what is the trigger for emotions. You should not skimp on time if you want to dedicate it to "restore order" in. Clear thought - a guarantee that emotions will overwhelm you suddenly. Allow the emotions and thoughts in a state of harmony will help favorite music. Shouldn't be listening in critical situations is something new. Well work relaxing and familiar music, it will remove the stress and emotions will return to normal.
Don't be afraid to go to a therapist
If the emotions control you manage all the worse, and the suppression of emotion damper on your mood, besides, you are confused and can't calm down on their own, and bursts of adrenaline inside plunge you into a state of melancholy or fear - you should think about visiting psychologist, psychotherapist. Professional will help you to understand the intricacies of cause and effect, to remember the forgotten nervous shocks, and heavy experiences, to experience them consciously and to leave them. By the way, the role the therapist can play a reliable friend. Of course, you can rely on in these matters and your loved one, but it is fraught with consequences. Close, loving people - impressionable, and if you "load" such a person - relationships can suffer, and the feelings of embarrassment and guilt to push you away from the one who became for you a "vest". However, if you and a loved one there is unconditional trust and intimacy - you can even give vent to tears. Cry it out, you will release your mind from unnecessary emotions.
Advice 2 : Harmful emotions for health
First, it's greed. Know that this feeling leads to eating disorders. The desire to arrogate to itself all earthly blessings in a direct way leads to constipation.
The second emotion, which is injurious to health - it is envy. The experience of the good of others, inability to be happy if others well - a great stress for the body which can lead to heart attack. Another victory it is better to use as a platform for their achievements.
Jealousy not only destroys love, but weakens the production of sex hormones, increasing the risk for a man to become impotent, and women to remain barren.
Another harmful feeling this sorry for yourself beloved. If you constantly revel in this experience, the body intensifies production of the hormone acetylcholine, and it can damage the liver. There are other harmful effects of such emotions in the human body sugar drops, digestion is disturbed.
At the other extreme, guilt. If a person constantly feels guilty or just nothing and blames himself, in his body, it undermines the immune system, hence the colds, infections, stomach ulcers and even cancer. Certainly need to forgive yourself your sins and mistakes. Health more than anything else.
And the feelings of sadness and longing suffer the pancreas and respiratory system. Lungs still hurt from the constant soul-searching and doubt, these feelings increase the risk of asthma.
The heart and arteries can suffer in addition to envy, and even anger, rage, passivity in the moment when everything inside demands to change the situation. Excessive anxiety, unreasonable anxiety can develop "nervous" hypertension. Fear also increases the pressure.
60 % of all illnesses are the consequence of harmful emotions. They all shorten our lives. Forgiveness, kindness, love, joy, prevent inflammation, improve blood composition, establish important processes inside the brain, heart and other organs. Positive thoughts help restore and preserve health.