The reasons for isolation in itself
Usually people keep to themselves out of fear to hear criticism, fear of looking foolish in the eyes of others, to expose themselves to ridicule, and so on. In other words, these individuals easier to stay away than to draw any unwanted attention to himself. Suddenly the response will be negative.
The socially anxious live with a constant feeling that others they rejected.
Some are not so much reactions to their actions, how much the fact that people will notice the internal excitement. So some bad thoughts cause more negative emotions. It is a vicious circle.
In some cases shy personality afraid to speak in public, in public places, to walk down the street, when you look at them and stuff. Often, such psychological disorder is associated with problems with self esteem and pessimistic Outlook on reality. Hence, a distorted view of themselves, society, life in General and your place in this world.
Perhaps the roots of the problem lies in the childhood experiences of constant criticism from parents, friends or relatives.
There is a solution
To combat the isolation many psychologists recommend the use of cognitive-behavioral therapy. It is important to evaluate what is happening around, and their reaction to it.
Sometimes bad thoughts are poorly understood, and sometimes denied.
During therapy you want to track all your negative emotions and try in the future to replace them with positive. It is therefore necessary to develop new standards of conduct and, in accordance with them to act.
In addition, we must remember that thought is material. If you think that you are dull and boring people, people will see you as a nerd. If you think you are an interesting person, others will too notice such quality.
On the other hand, you can try to pull myself together. Record decrements that just scares you more. Next, start to face your fears face to face, moving from less significant to more severe.
Also learn to accept yourself the way you are, attend group trainings on self-esteem, think positive thoughts, smile more often. Still the existence of problems in the past does not mean that it always will be.
If cope does not succeed, you should make an appointment to a psychologist. However, treatment most often includes only the therapy without medicines.