No time to worry
Thoughts about someone are most likely to arise in connection with strong emotional experiences. Therefore, the easiest way to get rid of obsessive thoughts is to find a source of more strong emotions. This can be a new relationship, love, job change, relocation to another city, a vacation abroad – in General, anything that has the potential to make worry stronger.
Another option is to plan your life schedule so that time for extraneous thoughts simply remained. You can sign up for training courses to start learning a foreign language, to find work. In addition, there are classes that require a maximum concentration of, for example, extreme sports or dance school. Unhelpful thoughts can appear when you have a place for them and time and your attention scattered. Do not let yourself of the ability for abstract thinking, and pretty soon will be the fact that thought of popular with your man and solitude don't mean anything anymore.
A good option would be a thorough analysis of the person calling you have obsessive thoughts. Perhaps, after reviewing all of the pros and cons emotions will weaken.
Try to think about what might happen, not what will never happen. Dreams must be meaningful and real, so no need to imagine a long and happy life with someone you're trying to forget. Choose topics that do not concern relations: transfer, career growth, new car. Objects of fantasy does not have to be material, as long as they were not associated with romantic relationships.
Psychological methods
The human consciousness is arranged in such a way that the many thoughts and emotions are the end links of the chain of associations. Some psychologists call the phenomenon that can cause such a chain of associations, "anchors". Many people have their own anchors: music, speech patterns, smells of perfume, color combinations, touch. An anchor can be any object or phenomenon, if it causes you a specific emotion or thought.
In order to save yourself from the fruitless thoughts, try to find as many anchors that lead you to sad thoughts. Realizing the cause-and-effect relationship, you can break it yourself or with the help of a psychologist. There is a technique known as "replacement anchor", when the same phenomenon is "attached" a new positive emotion. In addition, you should abandon all the "commemorative" items: gifts, letters, messages on the phone. The longer your look will be for them to cling to, the more time you spend worrying instead of living.
The term "anchor" is mainly used in neuro-linguistic programming – method of managing your and other people's emotions.
In any case, a man who strongly like it, don't forget to turn out instantly. However, it is in your power to make it happen quickly and painlessly. Once you realize that thoughts about that person are still there, but no emotion they did not cause, becoming ordinary facts. The statement that time heals was not born in a vacuum, even though this doctor requires the support and participation of their patients.
