Analyze your life situation. Work on yourself makes sense if you yourself are acutely aware of the lack of responsibility. The reproaches of relatives and their "good" wishes are often just a reflection of the desire to shift responsibility on your shoulders.
Determine the range of situations in which you want to learn how to take responsibility. Attempts to answer for everything that happens in life your family and in the workplace, is the most direct and shortest path to neurosis. To be responsible means you have the ability to manage the situation. But there are events, the outcome of which you at all desire will not be able to influence. In this case, your words "I am responsible for it!" may turn into an empty phrase.
Start to take under its control the most common household and work situations. Speech can go about deciding on a major purchase, change of lifestyle your family or perform critical production tasks. Take the initiative. Invite the spouse together to carry out repairs in the apartment, taking on the most difficult stages of the work. Refer to the manual with a request to appoint you responsible for conducting corporate events.
Performing any task, make sure that the end result was under your control. Check the quality of their work every step of the way, not letting things drift. Don't try to shift the blame for mistakes to other individuals with whom you work. This applies in particular to those who perform the functions of the head, is the leader in the family or other social group. Responsibility implies that you are responsible for the result, regardless of the contrived circumstances.
Learn to fight the feeling of fear. It is feared for the fact that you can not cope with the matter and subjected to censure, often the cause of avoidance of responsibility. Choose tasks that challenge you.
Work on raising self-esteem and eliminate dependency on other people's opinions regarding your personal and business qualities. Self-esteem and ability to take responsibility for what happens in life, are very closely related. The one who have a sense of responsibility, typically has an independent character and leadership qualities.