Less likely to be fooled by beauty and charm. Very often "the adorables are capricious selfish. But you want to be loved, not used.
First of all, try to check the boys on sincerity. Because talking about love and love – two different things. Loving person with more joy giving than taking. That is, if a guy is able to sacrifice something for you, that's a plus in his favor. But if he tries to do everything the way easier and convenient to him, and you, in his opinion, should only happily agree, this is a clear disadvantage.
If you are unfamiliar with the parents of their Boyfriends, then at least provoke the guys to a story about them. Information about the family of man you can get some information about him. For example, the Pope is your guy a wonderful father to his wife to be treated with respect and love Perfectly! There is a chance that the son is the same. But if the young man in the family of rigid Patriarchy, the father is not indifferent to alcohol, and even, God forbid, likes to walk on the side , you should ask yourself, is it worth the risk. Although it happens that the son, who truly loves mom and life watching the antics of the father, acquires a strong immunity to this way of life.
If the behavior your boyfriend is clear that he is a submissive sissy, used to the fact that his mother decides everything, and the mother is striving to solve everything for the son, it is quite possible that she will do it when son will have his own family. It is unlikely you will like it.
You should think more, and this aspect of mutual tolerance. All people have their own peculiarities in character and conduct. They say that women marry the men, the disadvantages of which they can tolerate. Some women can easily live side by side with a man who, being able to make a family, not scored in this single nail on their own. The other for "hands growing out of the place , ready to kill. Women, accustomed to perfect order in the house, usually barely tolerate thrown anywhere socks.
Compare the advantages and disadvantages of guys who compels your attention, and make your choice. But don't forget to listen to your intuition – sometimes it can tell you how to choose from two guys one, the one that you need.
Advice 2 : How to make a choice between men
The choice between the two men is always difficult. The feelings that a woman feels for both of them, impede the final decision. If you are faced with this choice, study each of the men, trust the opinion of people close to you and your own intuition.
Explore the positive side of each of the men. Your feelings will hinder you to make a rational choice, however, you must make the effort to try to understand why you like a particular person, what makes you love him? Perhaps the man is extremely interesting topics that can inspire your ideas and interests, or he has a good sense of humor and you always have fun with it. This quality can inspire others, they make people look at the world in new ways.
Determine what you do not like these men. Make the decision on the final selection can't be considered negative aspects of each of them. A person can be a lot of merit, maybe you like it, however, the negative side is that you don't notice may be unacceptable to you. The choice of this man in this case would be incorrect. Note, for example, how he communicates with you and others. Maybe he likes to manipulate or to command. The selfishness in man it is hard to spot if you are overwhelmed with feelings for him. Try to escape and look closely at the man, you will see its negative side.
Compare the feelings that you experience while you are with each of the men. Identified advantages of one of the men may seem to be determining for you. However, it is possible that another man can make you feel happy with their presence. Please note, if you comfortable with a man whether you like his compliments, don't they strike you down. Do you feel that his attention was drawn only to you, not does he compare you with other women. This comparison will help you to understand how each of the men affects your emotional state and your feelings.
Try to trust the second opinion, ask friends, see what they think about your relationship. However, don't ask them direct questions, not try to learn from them, what choice you should make. Ask only about how your relationship looks from the outside. If you have already decided to ask the opinion of others probably makes no sense. However, be prepared to take advice, if they still give the side view may be less biased.
Learn to trust your intuition. Use the experience of past relationships if they have been. Perhaps you've met men with similar traits and your relationship nothing good is not over. It is not necessary in this case to blindly trust your feelings.