Advice 1: How to download human words

How to influence a man against his will, to force him to accept your opinion and carry out his will? On these issues, thought the great scientists and the great dictators, diplomats, scouts, mages, and all those who wanted to control someone else's will and mind.
Cogito, ergo sum (Latin: "I think, therefore I exist"). Descartes.
You will need
  • If we do not set ourselves such tasks, and only want to be better understood and considered our opinion, it is helpful to familiarize yourself with the basic concepts and basic techniques of human exposure. This will help us NLP, or neurolinguistic programming.
Instruction
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Step 1. The definition of a driving system of human perception, i.e. of the system that is dominant in the cognition and perception of the world.
Experts identify three main: auditory, visual, and kinesthetic. When the dominant auditory system people most of the information perceived by the ear - "hearing"; when visually – perceived image - "sees"; kinesthetic – actions - "make". The vast majority of a person is present mixed system, that is, the dominant is followed by a support. For example, "auditory" is often complementary to their perception of the images: "hearing the noise of the vast blue sea."
How to determine the dominant system? He will tell you about it! For verbal expression of their thoughts and desires peculiar to man. So, if the person addressing you, said: "Listen to me!" is not only an indication of his Central auditory system, but also an invitation to talk with him in the framework of this system, that is, he wants to be heard. If he says "Look at this!" - this means that he perceives the world through the eyes and it surrounding images are the main source of information about the world. When he offers: "Let's go somewhere?" it means that for him the action is a familiar and comfortable state. These examples are very simple, but if you will closely pay attention to the statements of the interlocutor, you will find a lot of nuances in the manifestation of its dominant system.
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Step 2. Adjustment. Adjustment required to create a comfortable atmosphere and rapport with your interlocutor, who must understand that dialogue is the "unified coordinate system". Many conflicts and misunderstanding happen because people operate with different categories and find meaningful platform for dialogue.
So you listen carefully to the interlocutor, according to the moderators determine what system is a leading. Listen to nouns, adjectives and verbs. What more? As the man describes the events, people, phenomena? When you understand what the system is leading, you can "tune out". You start using in his speech about the same words and definitions, synonyms, and antonyms, shouting, and rhythm of speech that you and your partner. At first it will be difficult, if your system is not "related". After some practice you will easily be able to achieve the necessary level of adjustment. For initial practice, listen to the conversations of your colleagues or other people, speeches of politicians, celebrity interviews, etc., analyze them, identify the host system. Try to write the text of the acceptance speech, formulate questions for that person.
It is important that the adjustment podkreplyalisj and other methods. First and foremost – adjustment gestures. The most effective way – "mirroring". For example, a person sitting in front of you, closed palm. Close and you. Threw a leg – cast and you, just the same as the source. If straightens her hair or looks at his watch – "userchoice", but not immediately and explicitly, and after some time. In other words, you give him to understand that you "own". In addition to gestures, you have to consider the rhythm of breathing and of speech, voice volume, intonation and more. Give to open his companion and you will learn a lot more about it than perhaps he knows about himself.
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Step 3. Impact. So you've defined the driving system of your partner and understand what "language" it should be to communicate. Proceed to the effects. If you want to request, wish, demand – rely on the same words, statements that he will hear, will see, will be executed. Use familiar gestures, intonation, speed of speech and peculiarities of expression of their emotions, only your promise needs to be somewhat strengthened: a little more dramatic gestures, slightly higher tone, etc. the Manner of bringing to consciousness of the interlocutor to your wishes you can choose for yourself (calmly, aggressively, pleadingly), but in any case it should be in its "coordinate system". Once you understand that your message received and your opponent is ready for communication, go to the final stage.
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Step 4. Anchoring. This technique can be defined as "understood the material". Once you understand that you are "on the same wavelength" with someone, you need to fix what failed to agree. Even if you are not able to agree, the technique of anchoring will allow you to "remind" about your conversation next time.

The most effective technique of anchoring are tactile sensation, the "anchor". Ways weight, and they are chosen based on the situation and the level of relations with the interlocutor. For example, walking with him, in the end of the discussion gently squeeze his arm just above the elbow, or squeeze his hand between his palms. This may be a particular sound, for example, light cotton, something special your gesture, a look, that is something that will associate the subject of your conversation with you, it will be your personal sign. This sign should not be Intrusive and must be in the "coordinate system". For example, if you "saw" should not say "later" or "catch up".

Next time activate your "anchor": take the ice, remind him the essence of the conversation in the "system of coordinates", continue communicating on the wave of where your interlocutor feel comfortable. Soon your requests and wishes will be fulfilled and you will realize that their goals can be successfully achieved without the scandals, reproaches and insults.

Advice 2 : What phrases can humiliate a man

To humiliate the man several sharp phrases concerning the dignity, skills in bed, as well as appearance. However, this should be done only in the most extreme cases.
What phrases can humiliate a man?

The impact of self-assessment


Quite often offended by women thinking about how to humiliate the representative of the stronger sex who broke your heart or did not meet expectations. It is a kind of defensive reaction that occurs on the background of accumulated negative emotions. For men the most acute and painful are the words, degrading sense of his dignity. For example, if you tell him that he is a coward, a sissy, a sissy, spineless creature, not having his own opinion, etc. to bring the conversation to a boiling point, can affect the financial side of the question, chiding him that he earns little, can not provide a soul mate, like a real man. As a rule, the representatives of the stronger sex, very sensitive to such statements, even if not outwardly show it.

The conversation about male power and appearance


For men there is nothing more humiliating than a failure in sexual terms. Loving girl will never remember the embarrassing moments of intimate life that are not embellish her lover. If you tell a man that during sexual intercourse he was far "not on top", it may not only humiliate him but also cause the development of inferiority complex. Especially painful it will be perceived, to put it no tete-a-tete, and, for example, in the company of mutual friends. It will be a blow below the belt, so she should think carefully does a man such a punishment.

Despite the fact that men are very sensitive about their appearance, they are quite sensitive to compliments their "rivals". For example, to the representative of the stronger sex can be a derogatory expression lady that she liked the muscled hunk from next door. Also men do not suffer when they are compared with anyone. For example, the guy started to grind their teeth, the girl enough to hint that he's not tough enough, beefy and masculine, as, for example, some of her friends.

Is it worth it to humiliate?


In fact, to humiliate a man in several well-chosen phrases. Often, however, women who made choices all that has accumulated, do not feel proper relief. The fact is that negativity poured out, does not disappear. He only materialized, making the relationship more strained. Woman, systematically degrading a man, will never achieve the respect, love and affection. On the contrary, he will become introverted and depressed. If emotions are running high, it is better to talk to a friend, and the man simply ignore. Indifference is the worst humiliation and punishment for anyone.
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