In order to one day hear that you are the best in the world, you need to understand why men have mistresses. It would seem that the answer lies on the surface. Sex, you say. And, of course, you will be right. But not every woman who had sex with a married man and not objecting to have with it long-lasting relationship, has them afterwards.It is not so simple. Mistress is not only the object of satisfying carnal desires, even though this moment is also present. Often a mistress in a man's life occurs because he lacks love. Yes, years, life, age cooled them with his wife's feelings, relationships become a routine and an obligation, and that the male soul craves to be caressed. But because the surest way to become a better lover - give a man love and not just sex. Love it. He will feel, if you are sincere with him and not just want to use as an additional source of wealth. If you are looking for a brief guide on subordinate men for selfish purposes, this article is not for you.
Very often living a long time people stop each other to hear. Yes. To say that they each other speak, but not hear. But because listen to your man if he started to be Frank with you. Do not interrupt, do not criticize, and in any case do not make fun of him (he is negative enough without you). At first, just listen and let us understand what you with it's interesting. Everything he says is priceless for you. This is also a way to show your love. If he tells you about the work in which you do not understand, or about their relatives, which you'll likely never get to see, or about his long past childhood, listen and learn. After all, why then he tells you about it? Most likely he does it because he's got a story to tell, and he needs it. If you are really interesting person, and you will catch his every word, because it is a way to be closer. If you are tired of the theme, at least not yawn and do not interrupt the clumsy attempts to steer the conversation to another topic. Men - being quite vulnerable and inherently not prone to long conversations with the ladies. So think of his monologues as the honor of you.
The main objective of the woman who wants to permanently bind to a married man is to give him what he lacks in the family. And it operates on the contrast with his wife. She was on a diet and keeps the house sweet? Bake him cakes or surprise with exquisite desserts. If she does not give him the opportunity to watch football matches, give him a chance or ask him to take you with me to the match. Weekend wife prefers to be home watching TV - invite him to go skiing, skating or organize field trips. I'm sure your resourceful female mind figure out how to work it. The main thing - to give a man new emotions and impressions, which in the long family life he was deprived. And the source of these emotions he will tell you himself, talking about what she loves and what isn't.
You have to be interesting the chosen man. In addition to sexual interest it needs to be fascinated you as a person. Tell him about new movies, about their favorite books about music. Perhaps the world of art and poetry in small quantities will also be interesting to him. Show him that you are thinking and diverse people. To communicate with an intelligent and erudite woman hooked as much as good sex.
What not to do is to compete with his wife in areas where she is strong. Perhaps out of a sense of rivalry between you even I would like, but don't do it - it would be boring. Why did he have another expert on van Gogh or a fan of Bryan Adams in your life? One is enough.
And finally, do not confuse a lover is not a friend. It is not necessary to tell him about their problems. About problems let him wife tells. You must be a female holiday, female occasion. He must have been needing. He comes to you precisely because in its everyday life you become a bright spot. What motivated you - if the passion, lust, sense, whether, now not so important. To keep him, you need to be able to stay for him this outbreak and outlet. And that's not easy. Therefore, if you are tired, feel bad or annoyed, don't see him. To what it is. To be a little fabulous, a little of this life. We all want to believe in fairy tales. At least a little bit.