This conversion causes confusion from loved ones. Parents fear deliberate rudeness of teenagers, they don't know how to communicate with teenagers, how to respond to their calling and shocking pranks. You should understand that being rude teenager is a kind of reaction of protection, allowing him to hide his weaknesses, to overcome shyness and awkwardness.
The parents in this difficult period must have extraordinary patience and to show the wonders of wisdom. To maintain a sincere dialogue with the child, we must try to hear it. After all, the most vulnerable, vulnerable and defenseless member of your family is your own teenage child.
How to deal with a teenager if it seems that all the forces of parents just at the end?
- Spend a mental boundary between your emotions and words for maintaining dialogue and peace in the family.
- You show restraint and don't respond to the rudeness of the teen-parent rudeness, do not go to the Creek and do not allow physical abuse against the teenager.
- But the rudeness and crudeness of the teenager should not be taken parents for granted. It should be clearly understood that the depriving him of pocket money or a ban on visits to discos – a direct consequence of his inappropriate attitude towards adults. Otherwise, his abusive behaviour will seem normal to him.
- If you communicate with you child behaves defiantly, then ask him to reschedule for a later date. Give the child to calm down, to cool down and think about their behavior. You also will be free time to meaningfully prepare for the upcoming conversation.
- Parents do not need to go on a youth slang, to win credibility with your child. Thin-skinned a teenager can see in this attempt of insult, mockery. And the consequences of the reaction of a teenager is impossible to predict.
Heavy adolescence will pass, as everything passes in this world. The most important thing for parents to be able to preserve warm and trusting relationship with the child is a teenager, who very soon will become adults.
Advice 2 : To speak the same language with a teenager
Primarily family and close people as a whole can help the child to parental love and limitless patience. Despite the apparent aloofness, for children is very important to know that loved ones are willing to listen to them, that they can share with their parents not only their successes and positive experiences but also negative situations that happen to them, to give advice and to give psychological support in a time of despair. Parents, as a rule, listen but not hear of a teenager, not realizing that if they don't hear your child right now, you will never hear it.
Children are not Frank with the people because parents sometimes instead of support begin to stuff their morals, annoying dialogues about the benefits and dangers of certain things, insisting resolutely on his unconditional parental right and authority. They say banal: "Here I was your age... And you did not listen, and therefore suffer now." This is parental selfishness and hypocrisy, and children acutely feel and understand it. Teens subtly discern hypocrisy, exposing not only the lies of the Intrusive moralizing, but go mad from cold indifference, because that is extremely vulnerable at this age and take everything to heart.
Many adults, grown wise life experience, saying: "the Transitional age – not terrible, this self-will". But had to add: "the Main thing that passed without consequences for the child," otherwise, later it will be impossible to fix or rewind time.