Inflamed feelings for the lover are just. Romance secret rendezvous, rare date, accompanied by a fervent passion, create the illusion of a perfect relationship. However, do not rush to a whirlpool with a head and fall in love seriously. Remember that living together is very different from the rare dates. A person may be completely different from what you yourself came up with. Will he throw socks, to smoke in bed and demand to cook every day new dishes. Think about it before falling in love seriously.
If you both have families, fall in love with a secret friend is not worth it. Think what a blow to hear about your meetings, if illicit relationship is revealed. And it will happen if you let your emotions roam. The change in mood will not go unnoticed in your family. You sort of puncture, and the secret will be revealed. This will entail serious family problems, until the divorce. Are you ready to completely change his own life, the lives of children and spouse. After all to restore the marriage, most likely, will not work.
If you feel that you fall in love try to find partner's negative traits. Watch him during meetings. Maybe he picks his nose or says "calling". Now it seems funny and quite annoying. And later, when the passion passes, it will piss you off. Before falling in love see a man meticulously, as if you choose your future husband. You can even honestly describe on the sheet with one side negative and the other positive qualities. Then you'll know whether or not that person your more attention.
Experiment. Tell your lover that you want to leave the family, and will offer to open spouses. You will see the reaction. Most likely, the person just disappears from your sight and your love will be gone before it even started.
Advice 2 : How not to fall in love with married
Relationship with a married man can seem romantic and beautiful, but only for the first time. Then, inevitably emotional experiences or you will suffer because of what is left abandoned, either due to the fact that broke up the family.
For a moment imagine possible developments. He favors you with care and affection, because with you he will get what he apparently lacks in his family. But sooner or later this relationship will lead to misunderstanding, because each of the favorite women married men will "pull the blanket over himself" and, therefore, become more demanding. And the man will likely prefer to get rid of one of you. It is likely that the cast will remain the mistress, since you and him are not linked to any obligation.
To avoid this, suppressing thoughts about him even before the emergence of real feeling. Try to focus on his negative qualities. Remember all the details. Maybe he puts too much gel on the hair, or he pulled the silly face when he's surprised? Even these minor things will help you "sober" look at the object of desire. For greater effect, list your positive traits and charms of nature. Often keep in mind the imbalance, and your interest in it will fade away.
Take all the time, so there was no space for thoughts about a married man. It is helpful to immerse oneself in work or engage in a favorite hobby. It'll help distract you and might cause a new experience. Just imagine you well, and fruitfully done, received the praise of his superiors and a cash bonus, then went to the beauty shop, or on a journey. If you perfectly will spend time, your happy look will attract more interesting men.
Don't be a recluse and don't beat yourself up over your choice. Love is unpredictable, because no one in advance can't assume who gets an arrow of Cupid. Better stay home, spend time with friends, do not be afraid to make new friends and not lose your optimistic attitude.