How to survive the death of their only son

Earlier, when medicine was not so developed, like a mountain in the families happened quite often. Therefore, people have developed a pragmatic approach and defined the following stages of sufferings of the family of the deceased. You need to know stages of grief to control his state of mind. This will help you to realize on time is not delayed if you are one of them, so in this case, to ask for help to the professionals.

The first stage is shock and numbness, which you don't believe in loss and can't accept it. In this stage, people behave differently, some paralyzed with grief, some people try to lose ourselves in the activities of the organization of the funeral, the comfort of other relatives. There is a "depersonalization" when a person does not really understand who he is, where and why is. There will sedative tinctures, massage treatments. Don't stay alone, weep if you can. This stage lasts about nine days.

Then, forty days, may continue in denial, which you already understand your loss, but your mind still can't accept what happened. Often during this period, people heard footsteps and the voice departed. If he will dream, talk to him in a dream, ask to come to you. Talk about the deceased with family and friends, remember him. During this period, are the norm frequent tears, but they should not last all day. If the stage lock and the numbness continues, you should go to a psychologist.

In the next period, which lasts up to six months after death, must come the acceptance of loss, the awareness of pain. She may at this period decrease and again increase. After three months there may come a crisis, a sense of guilt: "I did not save you", and even aggression – "You left me". During this period, aggression can be translated into others: doctors, friends son, the state. These feelings are normal, as long as they do not become dominant and aggression is not delayed.

Some pain relief will occur by the year after death, but a year, usually, it is expected a new surge. If you already know how to manage your grief, your feelings will not be sharpened as much as in the day of the tragedy.

If you normally experienced all these stages, by the end of the second year the process of "grief" ends. This does not mean that you will forget about their grief, but you had already learn to live without the deceased and to remember his light, your sadness is not always accompanied by tears. You will have new plans, new goals and incentives to life.