Advice 1: How to treat infantile

Infantilism is a mental retardation, which occurs due to the unformed social skills. It is formed in the family, in which parents strongly push the release of the child into the light, and further supported by society. Modern culture supports human cult of youth, of life "kicks in", offering a huge choice of entertainment.
How to treat infantile
Instruction
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Becoming an adult passport, infantile people are not ready to build relations with other members of society, it is difficult to find work all for the same reason. All anything, but such people marry early, and now the entire care falls on the spouse. In marriage, all the negative traits of the "child" appear very clearly:1. Egocentrism, as Infante believes that the world revolves around him. 2. The inability to make decisions and inability to exercise will power to manifest in the details.3. Dependency, and it is not only and not so much the material side of the question. Adult child is unable to care for themselves at home, and if in such a marriage have children, then care about them is fully shifted to the spouse who plays the role of "big brother".
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In this situation, the infantile maturity of a person depends on spouse or parents, if he is still on their security. All actions should be aimed primarily at changing their own positions. Usually in this situation the wife whose husband spent days lying on the couch and refuses to take responsibility, begins to nag him. In response, he begins a game of make-believe. To disappear the child, he must first lose the "parent". And for this we need to stand on the position of the adult who has ceased to care about "baby" and nurture it.
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The reaction of the infantile man, who robbed him of his bright rainbow world of irresponsibility, can be different. First he will try to return the situation to its previous status. Most likely, he will pretend to be helpless, to put pressure on the pity. If the wife/mother will bravely hold the position of an adult, the infant will begin to recover from his illness. The second scenario – the child will lose interest and go on to find a new "mom". If the attempted cure has taken my mother, he had run away from her marriage; if the wife, then such marriage will come to an end.
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In fact, excessively pushing their child/husband, mother/wife also gets something in return. She feels needed, useful. If the mother does not have enough arguments to change the situation, then she needs to come to an understanding that her child will never be truly happy in adult life, being unadapted to the realities, he will suffer. Wife often themselves tired of the infantile men, and they are specific arguments do not have to look. Even if there is fear of divorce, you need to understand that a Mature man and immature still don't get along.

Advice 2: Who is the childish person

Infantilism common phenomenon in modern society. Paradoxically, the more demanding becomes the modern world to those who make the decisions, the brighter around you can see how many infantile people fleeing from responsibility for making any decisions at all.
Robbie Williams as Peter pan in "Captain Hook"
"Dodik, Dodik, go home! – Mom, well, can I still go play for a bit? – No. Go home. – Mom, am I cold? – No. You want to eat!" - this classic anecdote could not be better reflects the essence of the origins and content of infantilism.

Beautiful word "infant" is translated as "child." The word beautiful, but that's life with an adult child is never serene and fraught with a lot of stress and frustration. Infante was not - far from it. His partner, tasted all the delights of living together.

Infantile man is the eternal child. With all the beautiful bouquet characteristic of children from three to five: egocentrism, narcissism, irresponsibility and hysteria. But if only it was limited to the character of a classic childish. Unfortunately, they also tend to be the features inherent in teenagers in puberty: negativity, life-negation-affirmation at a constant, easy excitability and conscious insulation.

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"Oh, children, children! So great is their faith in mother's love, that it seemed to them that they can afford to be a little more heartless!" (James Barry. Peter Pan)

Peter pan, the hero of old nursery tales, classic representative navyaschevoy teenager, moreover, that refuse to grow up, provoking his actions on inappropriate response, selfish, often indifferent, irritable, arrogant, but requires exceptional attention. Peter pan - the infantile archetype of the modern person.

As a rule, infantilism is a consequence of modern education. In other historical periods, due to family and tribal way of life, the children almost from infancy taught to be responsible for their actions and for the welfare of the family. The modern way certainly is good that facilitates our everyday life and thus blurs the boundaries of responsibility for the survival ones from his childhood before the dilemma of making immediate decisions on which depends not only the welfare but the lives of the whole family.

A few years ago an American anthropologist Carolina Izquierdo of the University of California published a paper which touched on the topic of growing up on the juxtaposition of archaic and modern education. In this work she described two situations: the first is the attitude to education of 6-year-old child in the Peruvian Matsigenka tribe living in the Amazon, where Caroline spent the next few months, the second – scenes from the life of an ordinary American family.

So the first situation: one day, the tribe members moved in dvuhmetrovoy "expedition" to gather food for the tribe. A little girl of 6 years asked me to took him. Even though she did not have a clear defined role in the tribal community, she became a full and useful member of the expedition: carried sleeping mats, were caught, cleaned and cooked crayfish for all members of the expedition, independently having made the decision to do it. She was calm, Mature, and demanded nothing for himself.

The second situation is from the work of anthropologist refers to the life of a normal American middle class family: 8-year-old girl, not finding next to a plate of cereal device for ten minutes I sat and waited for her to give, and a 6 year old boy at this time persuaded his father to untie his shoelaces for sneakers.

The main features of infantilism



Infantilism may be congenital, but most often it is acquired and depends on education. Adult infantile person is a tragedy first and foremost for his family, for his family members if he manages to make such. But in the sphere of industrial relations infantile people not be called a gift.

Infantile people tend to exhibit emotional immaturity, he's unreliable, irresponsible, and avoids making any decisions, happy to be shifting responsibility to others. Infantile fixated on themselves and they only care about their own whims and purposes, although they can be quite successfully hide behind fancy words or even by deeds, but, alas, they are based in any case is concerned only about personal convenience, prosperity and satisfaction. As a rule, they almost always find someone who solves their problems, looks after and takes "under the wing".

But how attractive are infantile – the eternal children! They are as different as they are attractive and beautiful, like Peter pan and Carlson – archetypes-representatives infantile individuals: their element – the eternal celebration of life, which give attention and gifts.

That, and to have fun they not only love, but also know how no one and if life was always just a holiday, it is the best companion for this and not found: the infantile man fun guaranteed to... To the first decision – he was cold or hungry. And if you're ready for him to make all subsequent decisions – forward to the eternal tale, in which the further, the worse.
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