Envy called feelings of displeasure, dissatisfaction, arising from the realization that someone has something that is not an envious person. It is a destructive set of emotions, which are harmful both for the man himself, and for whom he is jealous.
Social psychologists believe that jealousy is a form of aggression. As a rule, the owners of this feeling not just sorry about the lack of something that other people have. They also actively act to deprive a person of his purchase and put it thus to the bar along with him. It turns out that envious instead of having to develop and achieve the same success that others have, I prefer to "delete" the opponent to his level. That's why this feeling is condemned in secular life, and in many religions.
Unlike men, women have fewer ways to Express aggression. Guys can fight, can insult each other, go for a direct conflict and opposition. No one will call them crazy for it. Women's direct aggression is contraindicated, it is frowned upon by society. Conflict and aggressive women are called hysterical, nevrotichki, bitches, etc. and Therefore have to act not directly, but secretly. Envy helps ladies to blow off steam and relive the negative emotions from the fact that they lose out in competition for a man, a job or some material benefit.
Envy is linked with the struggle for resources. Unenvious women don't think men, money, or nice clothes is not enough at all. So they calmly react if they see a friend in a new limousine, or high handsome husband. But there are not so much. Society drills the girls from childhood, that few men, what is a good job to get a job without cronyism is not possible and the like. There is a feeling of helplessness in the earnings or find interesting guys and a heightened sense of competitiveness. And then each manifestation of success with girlfriends is not just a reminder of this unpleasant experience, it is the reason for the internal pain of what someone's life is better.
Envy can be a consequence of high self-esteem on the background of laziness and unwillingness to be active. The passivity of the women are also taught since childhood. You can't ask for a raise of salary, not the first to get acquainted with the guy, etc. Such stereotypes is a bad ally in the struggle for success and prosperity. Getting rid of them helps to change envy into a feeling of satisfaction from accomplishments.