Before to ask her husband a question about the change, to begin to set yourself up for a calm, composed and constructive discussion. We have to clarify the points you are worried and concerned. This is what you need to say to the spouse in the first place, then you can move on to the subject matter. Immediately you need to prepare for the difficult, and perhaps even a very difficult dialogue because men do not like such questions. This will have to be considered, but do not forget that you have the right to know the truth and need to be in an atmosphere of trust, so ask her husband about honest and Frank conversation.
When the Preface and the topic of conversation is marked, you can ask some General questions about the affair. Most likely, you will get a negative and reassuring answers, because few people voluntarily confesses his sins, especially if they have no evidence and never will. It should be understood that the truth only he knows, and in any case, you have to believe him or not believe it, but to live in such a relationship very difficult. In other words, the main task – to achieve the opening of all the cards, and to position the man so that he felt the need to be with you most Frank.
If the spouse will irritate questions, and try to calm him down. Remind them that you are his wife, and very important to you this question. The main thing at this point to do without excessive recrimination and, especially, without hysteria. If there is concrete evidence of infidelity, Express and hand them to him. He needs to understand that you know about betrayal, and maybe it will change his attitude towards you. By the way, statistically, men admit infidelity usually in two cases – either when the obvious evidence on the part of women, either by their own desire to end the relationship.
Despite the feeling of jealousy that interferes with life, opening the truth does not always contribute to strengthening of relations. Therefore, you need to be prepared for any eventuality. Imagine, he confesses to treason. What to do next? After that, probably, will have a serious crisis in relations. Men in such situations are rather passive and rarely seek to solve such problems on a par with women, so if you don't want to aggravate the situation and decided to forgive a man to save your family, it is better to hide from a cheating spouse is your guess. However, most likely, the truth will lie in your hearts a heavy burden, and in the end you happen to have the nervous breakdown that will lead to divorce.