Offended has several stages. The earliest people are not willing to listen and hear each other. Everything you need to not commit follies, to disperse at different angles. Perhaps even to live separately. No talking - this is normal. To communicate the first time, notes and SMS is also OK. Natural convergence after a quarrel should be gradual. At this stage you can not behave rude, to intrude into the personal space and show my aggressive side. Drunk calls, threats, flirting with her best friend, hoping to cause jealousy not only repel the favorite, but also provoke her anger and desire for revenge. Then in the course can go anything. And damage things, and the drain of the compromising photos to the Internet, and dirty gossip. No wonder William Shakespeare said that the worst fury in hell can not be compared with the aggrieved woman. If a man wants peace, he should not kindle the fire of war. When the emotional fervor will fade, there will be time for reflection about yourself, about relationships and about how to live. Usually girls experience at this stage, longing, resentment, guilt. They start to get bored, it fills them with desire to speak and to listen. Worst of all, if she is silent or avoids contact even in three to five days after a quarrel. It's the depression, and the girl in this state do not care. It is now closer than ever to collapse. At this point, to show himself as a man sensitive, emotional, aware of his mistake (even if it was not, that nobody cares) and ready to fix it. Soft, sincere conversation will help to build relationships. And the reason for the conversation will be a romantic gesture, which depends on the financial possibilities and imagination of the young man. The momentum that will change relationships, can become a banal inscription in white paint on the pavement, and a music room with a Serenade, and the gift that is accompanied by a warm letter. After reconciliation comes the stage of euphoria, which can last from several days to two to three months. It depends on the temperament of lovers. Choleric often argue, but quickly return to their original positions. Phlegmatic long some pent-up resentment and longer worried that after reconciliation they need a lot of TLC. Sanguine other are more willing to listen to reason. They might make up just because it is so necessary: because of the joint child, housing, informed of their commitments. Do not think that the man, apologizing first, humiliated. It is only the first takes control of the situation, induces the girl to the conditions which he voiced himself. It is the man-peacemaker demonstrates his noble character, his generosity and wisdom manifests as a desire to protect the relationship is a symbol of a Mature and integral personality.
Advice 2: How to reconcile with my best friend
Best friend is your support in any life situations. Why quarrel with it cuts the ground under your feet: you have a bad mood, and you can't calm down, until a long-awaited reconciliation, the occurrence of which is necessary to make efforts.
Analyze the argument and try to understand what was the cause of the quarrel. If the occasion is a breeze, for example, you or she was in a bad mood because of problems at work, and the accumulated negative hit on your best friend, you can easily make it up in a few days. It is more difficult in the case where you disagreed, or strongly quarreled quarrel over men – will have to try to reconcile the contradictions, and it may take more than one week.
Give each other time to cool off after a quarrel. When you're both on the emotions, attempt reconciliation may lead to more fighting, so leave my friend alone so she and you might think about the incident, to understand his guilt and realize that you want to continue the friendship. But do not over tighten – do not expect the first step from her, do it yourself, otherwise the fight can take a long time. Don't focus on who is right, because if you love her, then the blame should not be the determining factor.
Call, send SMS, write to the email address or social network 2-3 days after quarreling. Both of you calm down by that time and want to resume the relationship, so it's not important who was the first to say: "I'm Sorry". If you can visit then this is the best option, because the joy of reconciliation in person will be much stronger than on the phone and, especially, on the Internet or SMS.
Ask forgiveness if you are at fault in a serious relationship. Find the right words to convince a friend in sincere repentance and desire to reconcile. Explain why you did wrong, show that you acknowledge their guilt and reassure your best friend that you never make the same mistake. It's better to talk in person 7-10 days after an argument. If a friend sees that you really understand his wrong actions, then she will be happy to compromise, because you are her family.
If a strong argument to blame your best friend, then proceed according to the situation: it is logical to assume that she should apologize, and you can wait when she wants to reconcile. But you know your friend better than anyone, so if you realize that pride will not allow her to make the first move, then you go to contact, because you value a relationship with her, and even anger prevents you from thinking about your best friend, knowing that she just can't get over yourself.
Even the best friendship sometimes ends, because you can forgive not all, so please understand if the friend does not wish to resume relations. If you came to this conclusion, it is proper to inform the former girlfriend about this.
A strong argument can reduce surprise: give a friend something nice, like chocolate or lipstick, and bad memories will be gone.