The need for love from others always comes when a person lacks self-love. It seems that the love of others compensates for the emptiness inside. But it is not. Even if the love of the people around them is in excess, it still does not replace love itself.
Most of the problems with the love of self appear in people who nedolyubili in childhood. Too busy working dad, an indifferent mother, single-parent families, or any other reasons why the child has not enough love from the most important people in his life, did the trick. The child turned adult who desperately seeks the love of others to get what he was given in childhood. In this situation, the first thing you need in the soul to come to terms with their parents, and look at the situation from the other side. Perhaps you just didn't notice that the parents love you. Maybe because of his nature or upbringing they did not know how to show love. But almost all parents love their children. If you think about it, you will definitely find this proof.
Problems with the love of self are bound to be people who accustomed themselves to blame. Even if in a joking manner to constantly talk about how bad you, the subconscious will record it, and you will feel that way. So stop the blame and start to praise. And praise for any occasion. Even if you just washed your dinner plate, be sure to Pat yourself on the back.
Extremely useful to keep a diary of your achievements, where you will write down all the good that did in the past day. Morning diary it is recommended to re-read it, it will recharge you with energy for the whole day.
Love yourself. Behave with other as you do when the love of another person. Buy yourself whatever you want, pamper gifts and pleasant surprises, tell yourself nice things.
Find within themselves an island of self-love. Every day make it more and more, feel like you are engulfed in love is coming from an internal source. Do this regularly and very soon you will feel that you are not having thoughts about how to make it so that you loved the surrounding, because you are full of self-love.