Quite often there are people who seek to control the actions of other people. To the outside observer, this behavior may manifest as a total desire to help one and all, to do everything for others, the unwillingness and inability of the Manager to assign responsibilities to subordinates and to take the form of persistent interference with attempts to manage it, to be the center of events. On such occasions people often say, "Sticks his nose in their Affairs". The roots of such behaviour lie in the specific character and individual psychology of the person appearing in the process of social interaction. Self-doubt, which manifests itself as distrust of other people and becomes a constant source of self-affirmation through the desire to be the center of events, and there is likely a problem that needs to be addressed in order to stop all experience.
Another reason of permanent experiences is often not an external manifestation and the internal state of a person. A man can't stop worrying about everything that was happening to him. He avoids new situations and shy of innovative solutions. It is affected by someone else's opinion. He constantly feels that people appreciate it, even in situations where such evaluation is not expected. He has an unstable self-esteem dependent on the opinions of others. The root of this behavior, again, is the lack of self-confidence.
Surprisingly, in both the situations described with such different social manifestations, the root of eternal experiences is their own person's insecurity in themselves and their abilities. It is this quality of character will be working with all those who want, finally, to stop all worry and learn to see the world from a position of confidence and peace of mind.
Advice 2 : How to stop panic
The sense of panic is known to many people. It is not only a poison, but also can put it in danger is panicking, a person loses the ability to respond adequately to the situation. How to learn cool, calm and restraint?
The main cause of the panic is human selfishness. Someone does not agree with this, but if you look at the root of the problem, we can understand that the cause of all the fears and worries is the human "I". To panic is needed for a reason – for example, you're afraid that look bad and worried about what you think about. But if you deeply care about who and what you think or say, panic would not exist. Hence the conclusion – you need to change your attitude to what surrounds you.
Do not worry due to the fact that someone may have about you something to think about. For example, you walk down the street and you think everyone is looking at you, evaluate your appearance and clothes. You blush, embarrassed look down, speed step... If this situation sounds familiar to you, begin to change it. To start take it on faith that you are deeply indifferent passers-by, all busy with their own thoughts and deeds. Are you interested in those people that I go to meet you? Unlikely. Similarly, they don't pay any attention to you. They care about you, they are not looking at you. And if we look, just so you do not have to face.
Learn to feel the street safely. Never in a hurry, let your step be calm and measured. If you've shut people out, but now change the situation – start yourself to look at them. In your opinion should be just interest, curiosity, but not the rating. Don't make judgements, just watch. Here is the secret: if you look at the person, he would not behave towards you aggressively. But it have to be a keen interest and curiosity of the child discovering the world. This exercise will help you to open up, to get rid of internal stiffness. If the answer to your mind people looking at you, in any case, don't give quickly eyes, not hide. Just a barely noticeable smile and move on.
Make a list of what is bothering you, it makes nervous. Work, relationship with colleagues, superiors, friends, spouse... Find everything that makes you panic. After that, methodically, right down the list, start to comprehend what would happen if your worst fears are confirmed. For example, you are afraid that you might dismiss. Well, imagine that you were fired. Will this situation for you by the end of the world? It's not, you can always find yourself another job. Is it better, worse, but I can. So it makes no sense to torture yourself and to survive. Do a good job, but don't worry about it. And so on all list items. Don't forget that many of the fears are absolutely not required to be realized. For example, you are afraid that your child might get hit by a car, in the kitchen can explode gas, etc., etc. From such silly fears need to get rid of in the first place.
Remember that scared, nervous, worried, panicking the worst part of your self. No it is not supported. Intentionally get away from bad thoughts. Feel your strength, ability to overcome any adversity. Try to be optimistic – expect the best, but don't worry, when something goes not as you expected. Reduce the level of its ambitions and claims, it will help you to get rid of the huge reservoir of experiences. More walk in nature, go to theatres, museums, read good books. Concentrate on the good and you will see first hand how your life will turn for the better.
Advice 3 : How not to worry over trifles
Do not give rest to troubled thoughts? It's a shame, if you understand that anxiety is not worth a damn, but still keep thinking about nothing. Learn how to banish these thoughts, otherwise over time this can lead to all sorts of disorders.
Be distracted. Next time, when small and harmful thoughts will creep in the head, claiming special attention for the whole day, just take care of some business. Preferably, not mechanical, like washing dishes. Go for a walk or just get out for a while the room or Cabinet in which are.
Abstracted. If the thought still haunted, imagine your situation as if from the outside, look at yourself and everything that happens around you. It helps to soberly assess the situation and stop the excitement and anxiety, which over time can grow with new force. Looking at the situation through the eyes of an outside observer, you will see how sometimes a tiny cause for concern.
Imagine you picked up an invisible eraser and just erase the events that haunt you. Instead of "blank spots" imagine the outcome that you see fit. If you hurt someone – answer as hesitate to answer then. If you fell in a puddle, "erase" this moment fully, but instead "draw" a storm of applause of recognition, as if you were handed the "Oscar", etc.
If feelings trifles come back again and again, try to "scare" them. There are several such techniques. For example, you are in the shower and quietly humming. If in the head crept into the idea harmful, dramatically improve the tone. Or, as soon as you visit another alert for nothing, throw things and start to swing a press or do push-UPS. Of course, such a defensive reaction will be appropriate exclusively in the home.
Disturbing thoughts come to you at work? Hang on the wall or Desk computer "soothing" label. For example, "you are great, and will be even better", "Spread your eyebrow and smile" and draw a funny face. Or just write in large letters the word "Enough!". As a reward for self-control spend the rest of the day unusual: go to the cafe, which has never been, or to the show, which has long wanted to see.
Advice 4 : How not to get upset and not to worry
Some people tend to take everything to heart and very serious to experience every setback. This excessive sensitivity has a negative influence on health. You must develop the ability to calmly accept everything that happens in your life.
You will need
- - essential oils;
- - relaxing music;
- - herbal teas.
Consider the failure from a philosophical point of view. Think of them as a lesson, more than this, as an opportunity for you to become stronger as the experience necessary for your soul. The sages had noticed that all events in human life is not accidental, they have a hidden meaning. While people do not learn a particular lesson, unpleasant situation to be in different forms again and again. But it is necessary to understand the lesson the problem of the mysteriously disappearing forever from his life.
Do not take everything too tragically, does not have habit to exaggerate. Always find a more serious event, which can be put in contrast to the incident, thereby underestimating the extent of what happened with you. Yes, you encounter some small unpleasantness. It is small, because there was nothing really serious. No one got sick, not dead... Arguing in this way, you make sure that your things are not so bad.
Many people get upset trouble associated with the work. For example, you were scolded by the boss, expressed some complaints. How to treat this event? Try to look squarely at whether the head of any truth. If the claim is justified, you sin offended, you just have to draw conclusions and prevent these flaws in the work. If the words of the chief biased, especially not worth getting upset about. Humans are imperfect, including your supervisor. Learn to forgive them their weaknesses and disadvantages, and you will see how much easier it will be to live.
Psychologists highlighted the type of people with increased frustration – that is, those who are dominated by emotions such as frustration, anger, anxiety, fear. If you belong to this category, a more serious approach to the issues of mental health. Often try to focus on something positive, force yourself to laugh, chat with a bright and cheerful people. Find a hobby that will delight you and fill your soul with positive emotions, fill your life various pleasant events, do not leave in the shower room for fear and pain.
Sports, it is strengthens the nervous system. No matter what the street time of year, the pool or the tennis court is available in any weather. In addition, the excellent health properties are Jogging, skating, skiing.
Use the anger management techniques that can help to find peace of mind. Well going yoga and other relaxation techniques combined with beautiful calm music, healing aromas of essential oils and decoctions herbal teas with mint or Melissa.
No job too big cargo of responsibility. Remember that you are an ordinary person with weaknesses and strengths that you too, can make mistakes. Get rid of the habit of beating yourself up for wrong actions or for something you did not. Do not fight with me, just do it for the future right conclusions and avoid the same mistakes. See the world more fun, be optimistic and you will see how your life will begin to change for the better.