Encourage your loved ones instead of blame them. For example, if a child is poorly done homework assignment and received a failing grade, it is necessary not to shout at him, to say the least, that next time he will do better. These words are stronger than invectives and reproaches often lead to the desired result.
Speak words of affirmation kindly. Never say: "you'll be fine, you can do this yourself, just leave me alone". Be involved, don't get angry and don't be indifferent. It is better not to support the person than to tell him the kind words in an angry voice, hoping that he will be left behind.
Ask if they need help, can you to do something to correct this bad situation. Ask questions, tuning in advance of the person on favorable response. For example, say, "we're gonna be okay, right?" or "Nothing bad actually happened, right? We can still fix this, right?"
Do not forget about nonverbal impact. Smile, Pat the person on the shoulder, hug. The child can gently take their hand or Pat them on the head. Never say words of encouragement with a sad or angry person. If you smile, the person probably otzerkalivat your smile and feel confident.
If you want to encourage someone who has not decided on any action, talk about the future, not the present. For example, if your friend wants to quit Smoking, no need to draw his attention to the negative aspects of spending on cigarettes, bad breath, etc. it is Better to tell him how great it will be when he gets rid of his addiction. A positive phrase will help to encourage and to push for action, while negative often insulted and humiliated.