What reasons encourage your child to squeeze mom's hair
It often happens that a young child will certainly need to play with mom's hair, to calm down and go to sleep. And if you take away all he desired, he gets angry and capricious, going to any trick to get to the top of your head. Psychologists see the following reasons for this behavior: perhaps the child does not get enough attention and tactile intimacy with their parents, anxious and worried, or he thinks that in this way establishes the right of ownership to the mother.
But there is another explanation: all the young primates instinctively cling to the fur of the female, moving, warming or thus avoiding danger. And women for a long time are wool, but the instinct of small children still provokes them to grab mommy's hair.
Grabbing mom's hair, or biting it, the kid can just "experiment" with pain, watching the reaction. You must immediately let him know that you don't like it, and patiently to stop such tests.
How to deal with such behavior of the child
Proponents of soft methods of education can only advise you to leave it as is and just endure. However, the habit of baby can squeeze the mother's hair can be fixed, and if the mother is uncomfortable, she hardly needs it to endure, going on over at Chad. Children constantly test boundaries and can go too far in their claims and actions, and to fight bravely formed the habit is already difficult.
Versatile ways to eradicate the habit of the child to pull mommy's hair, suitable for everybody, does not exist. You can try gently but firmly to remove the child's hand from his hair. How to braid hair in a ponytail or a bun, wear a scarf or hat. May lullaby, swaying and stroking the crumbs will be enough to relax and sleep.
Invite your child to replace mom's hair – a soft toy, doll or silk fabric. This will help you to understand what the baby is missing: the parent location, or certain tactile sensations.
Sometimes offer "for educational purposes" to pull the child's hair in response, to make him understand that it's frustrating. However, this lesson can be learned and lead to a very different outcome: demonstrating undesirable behavior that adults would want to prevent, they send the child a mixed message confusing. It is better to be sincere in the expression of feelings and not to cause crumbs cognitive dissonance, even if I have to explain to him several times that you hate. It is important also not to break the rudeness, shouting or irritation.