Take a sheet of paper and a pen. Write all the qualities you want to see in your ideal job. List all items - from the convenience of the location to the level of income (of course, taking into account your own skills and education). Now consider how many of these characteristics you have on the current work. So you can understand why even come to the idea of changing jobs.It is possible, the results will surprise you. For example, your dream job has been to be completely different, but at the present you keep a habit or a cohesive team. In any case, if you are thinking about changing jobs, you are internally ready for such a step.
Give yourself installation that won't quit current jobuntil you find a more profitable and promising in all respects place. But in parallel, start a new search. Make a resume that will reflect all your achievements to date.
Select those companies in which you would like to work. Examine their corporate website, read the reviews in the press and on discussion forums. Even if these companies do not need new employees, send your CV marked "personnel reserve". It is possible, you will be invited for an interview, and this step will be for you a kind of trigger from the outside.
Don't be afraid to radically change. If you work as an accountant, but always dreamed of being a florist, it is still he'll regret that in time did not dare to change. Do not be afraid that new choice will bring in less revenue. Yes, this is partly true, but only for the first time. Favorite work necessarily involves enthusiasm, inspiration and a lot of new ideas. If you choose a profession they like, sooner or later you will start to develop it and move forward.
Try not to put the current leadership is aware of what they are looking for a new job. It is possible that you will stay on the old place some time. The information that you expect to leave, would impact negatively on the relationship with the boss.
Accompany shift work other positive changes. Update your wardrobe, find new music, going to the sea. Let's transition to another career step is seen as a positive period of life.
Advice 2: How to decide on changes in life
Almost everyone sooner or later begins to feel discontent with their lives and decides to change it for the better. However, not everyone is able to overcome his fear of change and really start acting.
You will need
- - a sheet of paper
- - pen or pencil
- - Whatman
- - scissors
- - Internet access
In order to change your life, you first need to understand what exactly the field you need a change. Sit down and analyze all areas of life: family, relationships with people, work, material wealth, their personal qualities. Take a sheet of paper and make a list of those areas, the changes which you need.
Next to each item write a clarifying comment. If you are not satisfied with the work comments not only indicate your goal is to change jobs, but also the desired position or area in which you want to realize themselves. If you want change in your personal life, feel free to describe what you waiting for changes: to meet the man of their dreams, get married, have a child or Vice versa to end a hopeless relationship that has lasted too long, etc.
Think of the question "What will change in my life, if these dreams will come true?" and write a detailed response to each item. This way you will be able to visually see how your life can change for the better, if you will overcome your fear to change something. Proper motivation is of great importance, because only she could push the man to action.
In order to change your mental attitude and to stop being afraid of change, create a collage of your dreams. Take graph paper or a large sheet of paper. Look in magazines or online images that illustrate your desires. If you want to lose weight, you can as an illustration of this dream to use a photo of a man with a figure that you like. To achieve happiness in your personal life, choose a picture with which you will associate this desire: it can be a photo of the happy couple or just a picture, a symbol of love and tenderness. Cut out pictures-wishes from magazines or print out found on the Internet pictures and paste them on the prepared flipchart. The collage hang in the most prominent place in the room, for example, over the bed. This will allow you not to forget about their desires.
Every day spend 10-15 minutes visualizing your desires. In a quiet environment, look at your collage and in paint imagine what your life will be, when it will welcome change. Visualization will allow you to minimize the fear to act, and after a few days you will feel that not only ceased to be afraid, but do you really want to have your wish soon came true. You can use visualization method "by contradiction": imagine what your life will be if you have not decide it to change something.
Prepare yourself for the fact that all of these things can't happen at one time, since all changes occur gradually. Remember that even the smallest step will invariably bring you closer to the realization of the dream, so develop a strategy to achieve the goal and start to use it. If you want to lose weight, but still afraid to go on a diet or exercise, start small: replace one of the hearty meals on a more modest or useful, but instead of tiring themselves by long workouts in the gym, every day you complete the simple five-minute exercise. In a few weeks you will feel that all's not scary, and you're ready to complicate the program achieve its goals.
Please yourself with small gifts for each executed step. For example, you have decided and talked to my husband about what does not suit you in a relationship – as compensation to allow yourself to buy some new thing. You a week lasted on a diet – eat your favorite cake. Wrote the application on dismissal – treat yourself to an unscheduled meeting with friends.
Start your journey to achieve will help support. Talk with family or friends where you are sure, tell us about your goals and desires, and ask them mentally to help you. All people interested in the lives of their loved ones turned out well, and so they will help you to stop being afraid of change and begin the difficult path to achieving all his plans.
It is not necessary to exhaust itself in time. Do not put before itself a problem to achieve the goal for the week or month. Life changes can't happen instantly. You can lose motivation if you by some reason are not fulfilled by the deadline, so it's best just to have a goal and slowly but surely, to move to it.
Try to accept changes in life as an exciting game. Imagine that the person committing these actions - not you, but someone else for whom you are just observing. So it will be easier to part with their fear of change. And remember, if you don't like what is happening, you can easily stop the game.
Advice 3: How to decide to have a sex change
Sex change is an operation which is carried out in many countries, including in Russia. But are eligible for such procedure not all. Need full confidence in the act, emotional stability and understanding of what to back will not happen.
Sex change characteristic of those people who were born "out of his body." The percentage of such cases in the world is not great. People feel uncomfortable in your own skin, not willing to put up with a mismatch. Typically, these emotions arise in childhood, and then only realized more and more.
To decide on a sex change, it is necessary to address to the sexopathologist. The specialist will help to understand the needs, recommend things to try to make a final decision. Usually the operation go straight, but by this desire could be the desire for homosexuality. Worth at least once to try non-traditional relationships to accurately understand there is no substitution of concepts and aspirations. Before the operation you definitely need the opinion of the sexologist, who the person is observed for at least a year.
Before you decide, call to psychologists. After all, there is to be a big adjustment period. And it's almost always a very difficult time. People with all types of temperament are able to decide on a period many are not willing to endure such severe stress. Also, it will tell you how to prepare for surgery how to come to that decision without a doubt. The expert will not discourage you, he'll just tell you about the pros and cons, will look at this transformation from different angles.
Before the operation required a period when a person begins to drink a special medication. Hormonal substances prepare the body for the sex change, make the process safe. It changes appearance, reduces hair growth, changes of sexual excitability. This process usually lasts at least a year, and at this time the patient can decide for themselves comfortable he is in new condition, ready for the final step. During this period as the observations are made not only for the physical body and psyche.
But before you go to the doctors, try to live a life of the opposite sex. Today, women can easily dress like a man and Vice versa. Better to do it in the place where you don't know. Remove or buy apartment in another city and start a new life. Live as if you have already replaced the floor, did all the operations. Find a job, try to meet interesting people, make Dating exciting. Learn to enjoy this life. But remember that this is not a game but an experiment. If in two or three years you will not get bored, if you really feel that you were born in the wrong body, then it is worth going to the surgeons.
The maximum number of sex change operations today is in Thailand, second place in the world is Iran.