Advice 1: How to learn to refuse people

Failure is an integral part of human life. If people will not say no, they will use all and Sundry. What if the rejection you feel guilty? How to avoid unnecessary remorse? Learn how to refuse people.
How to learn to refuse people
Instruction
1
Decide whether you want to do what you ask. When you received an offer, you need to understand for yourself whether you really want to do it. To respond to the proposal only when you clearly define you need it or not. Tell yourself: "No, I don't need it!".
2
Say "no" to his companion. Don't be afraid to offend people. If you do it correctly, resentment or overt anger will follow. Explain your failure. Give reasons why you are unable or unwilling to fulfill the request. In conversation, often use the pronoun "I". Speak clearly, not confused. Do not make excuses, and argue it!
3
What are the reasons of failure. The reason may be both real and fictional. However, remember that it must be clear to the interlocutor. It needs to agree with you and accept your failure. Don't be rude and don't be cutting. Speak calmly, keep your eyes on the nose of the interlocutor. Shifty eyes and uncertainty in her voice can give the other person understand that you feel uncomfortable and he will push you.
4
Refuse, making the compliment. Denying, tell the interviewee something nice. For example, you can say, "Great idea, but...". People need to understand that you want to fulfill his request and, if not for the circumstances, you certainly would have fulfilled it.
5
Repeat your refusal. Psychologists say that a person needs to hear a refusal three times before he realizes that getting consent is impossible. Be patient. All entreaties answer "no". Be calm and control yourself.
6
Practice with your friends. Ask a friend to pester you with any request. Deny him this. Ask him to point out your flaws and errors failure: the shifty eyes, hesitant voice, the softness. Over time, the waivers will be given to you much easier.
Useful advice
Remember: when you deny a person you don't deliberately hurt him, and do what you need.

Advice 2 : How to learn to refuse people

Failure is an integral part of human life. If people will not say no, they will use all and Sundry. What if the rejection you feel guilty? How to avoid unnecessary remorse? Learn how to refuse people.
How to learn to refuse people
Instruction
1
Decide whether you want to do what you ask. When you received an offer, you need to understand for yourself whether you really want to do it. To respond to the proposal only when you clearly define you need it or not. Tell yourself: "No, I don't need it!".
2
Say "no" to his companion. Don't be afraid to offend people. If you do it correctly, resentment or overt anger will follow. Explain your failure. Give reasons why you are unable or unwilling to fulfill the request. In conversation, often use the pronoun "I". Speak clearly, not confused. Do not make excuses, and argue it!
3
What are the reasons of failure. The reason may be both real and fictional. However, remember that it must be clear to the interlocutor. It needs to agree with you and accept your failure. Don't be rude and don't be cutting. Speak calmly, keep your eyes on the nose of the interlocutor. Shifty eyes and uncertainty in her voice can give the other person understand that you feel uncomfortable and he will push you.
4
Refuse, making the compliment. Denying, tell the interviewee something nice. For example, you can say, "Great idea, but...". People need to understand that you want to fulfill his request and, if not for the circumstances, you certainly would have fulfilled it.
5
Repeat your refusal. Psychologists say that a person needs to hear a refusal three times before he realizes that getting consent is impossible. Be patient. All entreaties answer "no". Be calm and control yourself.
6
Practice with your friends. Ask a friend to pester you with any request. Deny him this. Ask him to point out your flaws and errors failure: the shifty eyes, hesitant voice, the softness. Over time, the waivers will be given to you much easier.
Useful advice
Remember: when you deny a person you don't deliberately hurt him, and do what you need.

Advice 3 : How to learn not to go in children?

Often when the child's upbringing the parents have problem children are trying to manipulate them. Some of them are manipulated. What to do to not be held hostage to the children's whims?
How to learn not to go in children?

Excessive guardianship of the child

If the child does not have any responsibilities, for example, to wash dishes, any request to run an errand (to clean up toys, wash dishes, etc.) the child will respond negatively to nervous, to quarrel with their parents. Tantrums will become a constant reaction. In order to avoid this, you need to see a line and not to cross it, can not be too spoil the child.

Education should take place so that the parental authority was never questioned. Even if during the games with the child, parents can be gentle and loving when a child needs to perform some duty, it is necessary to be strict. But it is impossible to raise the voice of the child and to swear, you just need to explain to him that his help is very important.

If the child is throwing tantrums, when parents don't obey his wishes, you just need not to respond. If the parents immediately begin to please and to praise their child, then manipulation is possible, and if not will respond to a tantrum, go into another room, the child will cease to be capricious, as he needs the observer. But if parents fail, the child will manipulate, put pressure on the pity and get the job done.

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