How to survive a betrayal

To experience betrayal is very difficult. Betrayal hard and long goodbye, and the adoption process often takes even longer than the process of understanding and forgiveness. The fact that the betrayal to us most likely to commit loved ones or important people, trust is undermined, the best feelings are subjected to shame, the world no longer seems safe, and is very difficult to get out.

How to survive a betrayal and as far as possible to restore confidence to the environment, we will discuss in this article.

Making process

People until recently did not want to realize that they had been betrayed. We are looking for reasons, we are looking for explanations. This explains the numerous attempts to "clarify the relationship" - it seems that as soon as he gets some kind of rational explanation for why he had been betrayed, everything will fall into place. And, really, no explanations. Yes, and they would sound pretty ridiculous: "I betrayed you because..." and then the points.

Betrayal is just betrayal

Some people find it easier to blame himself when someone "leaves" on anger and plans for revenge, someone easier to complain about the fate of anyone who is willing to listen to them, someone tries to immerse himself in work or "replace" with something else: a new relationship, food, me, extreme. Each person has his own way of dealing with negative emotions, the most important thing to know here is that this is the way spravleniya, a temporary measure and not a solution.

The process of forgiveness

Many misunderstand the word "forgiveness." Not necessarily, if you forgave the person to continue with some relationships, it is not necessary to trust him as before, and pretend that nothing is wrong between you has never been. To forgive is not for the offender, forgiveness is for you.

Unexamined undercurrent of resentment, as you know, destroy the person at all levels: begin of psychosomatic diseases, neuroses, damage interpersonal communication, in other words, you withdraw from your friends, buddies and relatives. No traitor is not worth this.

In order to forgive and to let go of the problem, it is necessary, first, to admit that she is (making process) that you are in the existence of this problem is not to blame, to find support and try not justifying your abuser anything, say to yourself that Yes, it was, has been and gone. The experience was painful, but something useful. Here is a good idea to really think — what was useful from this experience. You become stronger, you become wiser, you don't want to allow this situation to affect your life. You let go of the situation and, with it, the person who created it.