What to do when lonely

Quite often it happens that people, in the midst of a huge number of people, feels lonely. Like, constantly communicating, interacting with others, but the soul is very empty and sad.

What loneliness is

Loneliness is a human condition in which he is in isolation from others: physical real and imaginary peace. In the first case this is due to some external factors: work in a secluded spot, forced isolation from society (a dangerous criminal or mentally ill person). And the second happens in the human soul, despite the constant contact with other people when there are no kindred spirits, similar in looks and meaning in life.

The most difficult is spiritual loneliness. It can occur for a variety of reasons: separation from a loved one, death of loved ones, moving to another city/country. Sometimes a person is lonely since childhood due to the complex inner world which is not understandable to his environment.

More women than men suffer from loneliness due to the more highly developed emotions. But sometimes men are very hard to survive this condition.

Ways of dealing with loneliness

The main thing in the struggle with loneliness is not to dwell on this feeling. Short period to spend time with yourself is very useful, because with regular employment sometimes is not enough time to understand themselves, their feelings and sincere desires. But do not lock, try to isolate themselves from society for a long time, otherwise it may develop into depression, which later is very difficult to achieve on their own without the help of professionals.

In any case it is not necessary to eat or drink alone, it's not going anywhere, and the consequences can be very severe and sometimes even intractable (alcoholism). It is not necessary to get hooked on different depressants, they certainly will help, but it may cause dependence, and reason will not go away by itself.

If loneliness arose from parting with a loved one, it is not necessary to blame yourself and to invent different systems. It is not necessary to delve into the past and remember the good moments, this feeling of sorrow will only get stronger and the loneliness even more manifest. Give yourself a little time to relaxation, a getaway from it all - find your state of the several positive aspects. After all, you have enough time to do them and to do something which is impossible in a relationship. Need to feel not alone, and free, which do not have to justify their actions.

After a few days of holiday you should go out and take your day to the max, so there was no time for sad thoughts. This is a good opportunity to make a career, gain new skills and knowledge to engage in a favorite hobby. Enjoy every day and try to interact more with positive people who do not survive the difficult days in your life, they will help you get started. You can visit different entertaining places, if you really want, don't need to do it by force, otherwise it may cause the opposite effect. And never regret about the past, because the future depends on you.

If alone because of the death of loved ones, then there is a bit of a different situation, and this feeling will heal with the time. Loved ones should not be forgotten, but we must understand that nothing more than to help you and to change something too. So take this for granted, but continue to live. And loaded with Affairs day is also a good option of getting rid of bad thoughts. When a person gets very tired during the day, the night before experiences. And eventually the loneliness will not be as sharp, and the communication with other people partially compensates for this.

When you move to another place where there is no one acquaintances, the feeling of loneliness can also arise from lack of communication with loved ones, when no one to share my thoughts, emotions. There may be telephone conversations or communication through the Internet (Skype is a good opportunity not only to hear but to see the man even in another country and is completely free). Well, of course, is to try to make new friends from the inner circle - neighbors, colleagues.

Loneliness is useful for a short period of time, do not spare myself, it only aggravates the situation, and try to use it to their advantage to grow and develop.