Remember about your goals
Direct all your energy on achieving your goals. If there is something you really want, do everything you can to achieve this. Greatest wish is to help you to cast aside modesty for the sake of obtaining some benefits.
It is important that your value was true, otherwise the motivation will be insufficient.
Use every opportunity to get closer to fulfilling their tasks. Tune in and act decisively if life gives you a chance. Otherwise, your place will be someone else, but the benefits you deserve with your skills and work, will take a more enterprising person.
Build your confidence
To purchase some of the arrogance you need the self-confidence. Increase your self-esteem, indecision and doubt. If you're not yourself, you do not have enough moral strength to do what you want.
Adequate self-assessment will help you to protect their interests in those moments when someone encroaches. As soon as another person tries to hurt you, you will be able to stand up to him. Be sure that are worthy of only good, and do not let your rights have been violated.
Get rid of the habit to put the opinions of others above your own. Your view should be the priority. Believe me, there will always be people who disagree with your position, envious or judgmental, whatever you do.
Once and for all determine what is more important: how you will look in the eyes of other people, or will you be able to defend their case and their own principles.
Be tougher
Maybe you are too soft, compliant people. Kindness is a positive quality, but it doesn't have to bear the expense of its owner. Think about whether you're going against your own goals when you agree to help someone. A healthy ego and the ability to say "no" when you are uncomfortable to meet the request of a friend, just necessary for survival in modern society.
Perhaps the ability to Express themselves, to demand or ask for what you deserve, and to observe primarily the interests of their own is arrogance. But if you don't get feedback from others and dissatisfied with his life, such arrogance you just can not hurt. Gain self-respect and courage and don't give in to others if you don't want.