Go with what you feel. Lots of it. Only it is not necessary to call the former spouse and his passions and to pour on their heads buckets of negativity. This nobody does not become easier. Try to release anger and resentment by using safe methods. For example, use your imagination, imagine that the blessed is in front of you and tell him everything on your mind. Or pour out what I feel on paper. If words are not enough, just draw, draw – as it will. Then burn or tear the paper. And with it, your hatred.
Do not rush to find a new partner just to prove to your spouse that you stand for something that you can still see the boyfriend. First, you can prove anything, and secondly, hurt the latter-day gentleman. After all your negative emotions you can't hide. At best, you honor of pity, at worst insulted and leave. Compounding your frustration.
It is not necessary to seek refuge in alcohol. Yes, for some time, he would lessen the pain, but then again you'll feel and sharper than before. The same goes for sedatives, tranquilizers. Of course, sometimes you have to use, but only if they will recommend a specialist.
By the way, is a good idea to talk with a psychologist about how best to survive a divorce how to make an exit from the stressful situation as painless and speedy. If you think that no psychologist will cope too well. Hence, the upward movement is started, you are ready to open a new page of life.
It is useful to analyze the situation soberly to judge who and what to blame and what to do now. But to tie in the wilds of introspection is quite dangerous - everything should be in moderation. Not to withdraw into themselves, talk with loved ones, family, friends. Poweraide them your worries and ask about their problems – sincerely, from the heart. Help if you need to, make something. Don't avoid friendly parties, small family reunions. Life goes on, not run away from her pleasant moments.
And increase self-esteem. Praise yourself for not let depression break you, for suffering themselves, nobody hurt, nobody was humiliated. Nothing is done just like that, the divorce was necessary for the further development of your personality. We should be grateful to him for that.