Go with what you feel. Lots of it. Only it is not necessary to call the former spouse and his passions and to pour on their heads buckets of negativity. This nobody does not become easier. Try to release anger and resentment by using safe methods. For example, use your imagination, imagine that the blessed is in front of you and tell him everything on your mind. Or pour out what I feel on paper. If words are not enough, just draw, draw – as it will. Then burn or tear the paper. And with it, your hatred.
Do not rush to find a new partner just to prove to your spouse that you stand for something that you can still see the boyfriend. First, you can prove anything, and secondly, hurt the latter-day gentleman. After all your negative emotions you can't hide. At best, you honor of pity, at worst insulted and leave. Compounding your frustration.
It is not necessary to seek refuge in alcohol. Yes, for some time, he would lessen the pain, but then again you'll feel and sharper than before. The same goes for sedatives, tranquilizers. Of course, sometimes you have to use, but only if they will recommend a specialist.
By the way, is a good idea to talk with a psychologist about how best to survive a divorce how to make an exit from the stressful situation as painless and speedy. If you think that no psychologist will cope too well. Hence, the upward movement is started, you are ready to open a new page of life.
It is useful to analyze the situation soberly to judge who and what to blame and what to do now. But to tie in the wilds of introspection is quite dangerous - everything should be in moderation. Not to withdraw into themselves, talk with loved ones, family, friends. Poweraide them your worries and ask about their problems – sincerely, from the heart. Help if you need to, make something. Don't avoid friendly parties, small family reunions. Life goes on, not run away from her pleasant moments.
And increase self-esteem. Praise yourself for not let depression break you, for suffering themselves, nobody hurt, nobody was humiliated. Nothing is done just like that, the divorce was necessary for the further development of your personality. We should be grateful to him for that.
Advice 2: How to live, if the husband changed
For a married woman to know about the cheating spouse can be an ordeal. Moreover, in cases when the family looked happy and nothing seemingly did not promise such a sad event. How to live, how to behave in this situation?
Wife, who found out that cheated on her husband, especially if she is sensitive, emotional, at such times, it may seem that the ground was slipping from under his feet. Woman upset, feels betrayed, insulted. Often the pain of resentment so great that the temptation is to immediately file for divorce. But worth the stay.
Make a decision, lay it down and for reflection. Your emotions, feelings are understandable and natural. The more that women are generally more emotional men. However, major decisions do not take hastily, rashly. Try to calm down, pull yourself together. It's not easy, but absolutely necessary. Otherwise you just won't be able to talk objectively and impartially.
When the first, the strongest emotions subside, ask yourself the main question: are you willing, despite your insult, to continue married life with a cheating husband. Be as honest, honest with yourselves. It is not necessary to consult on this delicate subject neither with family nor with friends. Decide for yourself after weighing all the "pros" and "cons".
If you feel that you can not forgive infidelity, try to disperse peacefully, in a civilized manner, without quarrels and scandals, and to maintain good relations. This is especially important if the family has children for whom parental divorce and without that will be a severe blow.
If you are willing to forgive your husband, try to find the exact answer to a very important question: why did he cheat on you? The answer to it (and your subsequent response) will largely depend on your family happiness and prosperity.
To find out the cause of infidelity is to prevent it in the future. Some women, once in your situation, are quite natural and understandable temptation to blame only the wrong man, and to consider himself insulted by an innocent sufferer. Try to avoid this mistake and not only stating the fact of treason, but understand why it happened. After all, your husband chose you from the great variety of women, you the best and favorite. Why did that change? Try to assess objectively their appearance, behavior, habits. Unable to ask her husband: "What you missed, what did I do wrong?"
If you are overweight – do some exercise, sit on a diet. If you were too stiff, shy in bed, try to relax, read a book on the technique of sex. If your house lacked warmth, sensitivity, mutual respect, and make adjustments in behavior, try to be kind, friendly. And then the husband again will take you to the best.