Reward and punishment: how to influence the child

Many parents often wonder about how to punish or praise a child for doing something and get the desired result without adverse effects. It often happens, when for praise to be the birth of negative traits, such as self-indulgence, permissiveness and arrogance. The situation is similar with punishment.

Terrified and angry child who never explained what his offense will not be able to develop harmoniously in the future. It often happens that the child does not explain the basic rules of conduct, what is good and bad, how to act in certain situations and does not instill morals.

According to psychologists and teachers using physical methods in the education of the child, the parents will achieve the desired result. There are some rules, following which parents will be easier to avoid the wrong punishment.

In any case do not punish the child by withholding food. Also, no need to get him to read and write.

Parents must be firmly convinced of the guilt of the child.

Adults is a pattern of behavior that children inherit. It would be difficult to show your child that you can not impolite to refer to elders, although the parent itself does.

Not single out one child over another, not to set an example. If the punishment deserved both, in consequence should receive the same.

Never insult the child and not to belittle his dignity.

If the parent threatened punishment for misbehavior and the child made it, don't forget about the punishment. Thus, baby aware of the importance of words and decisions of an adult.

It often happens that children's actions lead to punishment. And remembering about the consequences, the child will think whether to do so. For example, when mom said not to swing the chair, so as to fall, or to wear mittens to cold hands.

Following the rule about the equal punishment should praise the children, too, in the same way. This is true in families where more than one child. Some moms and dads especially do not pay attention to the dignity and success of their child, because they believe that they can, so to pamper. Praise plays an important role in the development of the child, in its relation to activities, peace and consciousness. Parents, it is important sometimes just to praise you for the effort, when the kid really tried, but has not received the desired. It will be a positive reinforcement for that, in future, to achieve more.